Posts Tagged ‘self-care’

What Can You Change in 30 Days?

Friday, September 14th, 2012

As you read the title of this blog, I wonder what jumped into your mind.

Is there anything you would change about your life if you knew you could succeed and do it quickly?

I have always been a no-nonsense coach who likes to help people transform quickly and comfortably using human energy self-care systems. Thirty days is what I have been asking people to consider as a reasonable time-frame for transforming 2-3 major life challenges or goals when they choose to work with me. That’s far less than most coaches ask for client engagement.

I’m actually starting to re-think the 30-day mark. Why? Because it has been just 30 days since I returned from Soul Detective Level 3 training with Barbara Stone PhD, and I have witnessed some pretty amazing things that have happened after a single intervention. While I am trying to make sense of it all, I am convinced that we are living at a time when healing can happen even faster than I have previously been taught to believe.

What’s different? I have now experienced and facilitated energy healing at the soul level. The boundaries of time shatter when you step into this realm. This is work at a sacred level where I let go and just ask questions with Divine guidance providing the plan. Everything requires permission and very gentle respect. I know I am not in charge, but simply facilitating some work for much higher beings. It is humbling and also kind of fun. I never know where it will go, but my faith increases with each encounter.

Here’s just a bit of what I have witnessed in the last 30 Days:

• A depressed and grief-stricken professional is smiling, fully engaged and hopeful again, after months in a deep funk. The healing happened quite immediately and without medication. You can see the sparkle in her eyes and it touches your soul. Others have noticed the significant change and commented to me about the transformation.

• A colleague who was feeling stagnant with her business and plagued with self-doubt and distractions has found clarity and direction. She felt odd for a day after our session, but then saw business lining up easily and doors are opening. She is has more focus too.

• An energy healer who is working a stressful corporate job is no longer smoking, breathing more easily and feels alive again. Her confidence level has jumped to new heights. She is ready to start a business.

• A businessman struggling with family stress is feeling more relaxed and hopeful than he can remember. A heavy issue that has been haunting him since high school has evaporated.

• A single woman who has been searching for a soul-mate for the past 3 years suddenly finds all sorts of very attractive and eligible men are striking up conversations with her. She feels very hopeful.

• At least 8 earthbound spirits (ghosts) have been re-united with loved ones on the other side.

• Client appointments, referrals and speaking engagements have been coming to my business mysteriously. I have made more trips to the bank to deposit checks than I usually do and the account balances are growing.

• New clients are perfect clients and a joy to work with. Some exciting relationships for long-term partnership are underway for my business as well.

• My personal health, comfort, energy level and sleep have been outstanding. The mental clarity has been amazing too. Clients are reporting similar health shifts.

• There was one negative – my business web site and email were mysteriously obliterated for almost 5 days. None of my experts can tell me why this happened, but fortunately everything has been restored. I suspect the dark forces were not very happy that I had some new tools.

Here’s my theory on what’s going on

I have changed. Removing dark force interverences that were operating within my system were limiting my reach as a healer. Those blocks are gone now. I can do more and my energy level is higher for both my physical life and client facilitation.

The rules have changed! There appears to be a new environment for healing in which a simple request can receive a huge dose of Grace as a response. Being as specific as possible in making the request helps direct the energy for the healing. An energy shift that results in an emotional, spiritual and physical healing is rapid and comfortable.

Dark Forces are Open for Negotiation: When considering how to state this properly, the emphasis is on the word negotiation. The new process I am using checks for dark forces, curses, hexes, 666 calibration, ET interference and what some people would call demonic entities. This is not something I ever thought I would want or need to work with. (I believed I was too practical for that stuff – LOL) Now that I am choosing to look for dark force interferences, I am learning that the power of Archangels and the Divine is comfortably situated to negotiate with and transform these forces into forces of good. I can offer some of the preliminary negotiating and the rest is handled by the unseen light.

There is surprisingly little struggle.
The negative just dissolves and joins the troops in the light. I believe this may be a relatively new phenomenon that has emerged and wonder if humankind has been granted a new kind of power from some benevolent force out there. If there is some tipping point that needs to be reached in 2012, maybe that’s part of it too.

What will happen in 30 more days? There’s a Divine power to handle the nasty stuff and I’ll stay present to the life that is unfolding around me. We are all here to be our highest selves, play the part and set good intentions. While we are at it, we can all make sure to ask that every healing is accompanied by a multiplier of good will for all who may suffer from a similar form of pain. That’s the kind of healing that will create heaven on earth.

I am healed……

Wednesday, August 15th, 2012

Sometimes getting away for a few days of learning can be more healing than you could imagine. I remember signing up for Dr. Barbara Stone’s Soul Detective Level 2 & 3 class months ago, not quite knowing why or what I would do with this training. I simply wanted to support Barbara in making this training successful.

Barbara is a dear friend, fellow ACEP member and extraordinary healer. Our history goes back (at least in this lifetime – ha ha) to her role as my ACEP certification consultant. Two of my past-life cases appear in her book, Invisible Roots. Barbara planned this training to take place at her exquisite property on Lake Buckhorn in the remote outskirts of Millersburg, Ohio. I had been there before and knew this setting would add a great deal to the experience. Her home and yard are a nature girl’s dream — fairies, crystals, flowers, lush plants, fruits, vegetables, wildlife, images of Christ and Divine mother, artwork, textiles and more! You enter this space and experience the embrace of angels and God. How lucky for me to be invited to stay 3 nights in this beautiful home so that I might also eat food from the garden and sleep in this calming wonderland.

There were 11 other participants attending the program, including 3 MDs (including a psychiatrist) who already believed that when healing happens at the soul level, the body and mind are automatically restored to greater health. We were all here to expand our toolboxes and to heal ourselves so that we could be of highest service to others. I was immediately impressed by the diversity and divinity of my fellow classmates. I’ll also add that we looked like a normal bunch of business professionals. It was no accident we were all in this together. Still not quite sure about the WHY for me, I trusted that it would unfold.

The healing began immediately. We reviewed protocols, then practiced muscle testing, assessed energetic interference patterns and customized tapping diagnostics in small groups. The end of day one had me questioning my abilities and feeling somewhat frustrated that we were using the more complicated TFT protocols rather than the intuitive EFT tapping that I practice on a daily basis with ease. I was glad when Saturday’s class was over.

That evening after dinner, Barbara invited Dr. Bob and me to explore the presence of energetic implants that might be impeding our ability to fully express ourselves as healers. I’ve done tons of work on myself, but that is one area I have never explored and a bit too “WOO WOO” for me. I wasn’t quite sure I wanted to go there. What I do know is that my body doesn’t lie and that I have full control when I work with Barbara. My open mind agreed to be curious about this. Self-testing said “yes”. Both Bob and I experienced rather profound healings that evening. Energetic implants were identified and released. Both of my implants were from dark forces, attacking my throat (YIKES – not good for a professional speaker) and the clarity of my Divine connection. Once identified, these interferences were easily neutralized by invoking help from my soul council and the angelic realm. After the session closed, I felt awake, clear-headed and extremely well. I slept like a rock and awakened the next morning ready to be fully present. In my journal I wrote, “I had no idea I could feel THIS WELL, when I previously felt so well.”

As the group gathered on Sunday, I was ready to jump in and found myself volunteering to be the demonstration subject for the first exercise on releasing curses and hexes (WHAT????). Yes, the left-brainer in me still makes a funny face when that subject comes up, but I swear, I am a believer. Muscle testing detected a curse I was carrying. Working the soul detective process released it in what I can only describe as a physically intense experience. That session left me with extreme thirst and a racing heart. Once the dust settled, the lighter and clearer me emerged. How awesome!

I won’t share all of the details of the final two days, but suffice it to say that I feel quite empowered to help others shine their lights more brilliantly. In the past I have turned away from working with dark forces, however I now find myself much more open to it. Light always wins, especially when that light has been given brilliant maintenance and optimization tools. I know how to do this now and have a stronger life force within me. My clients will benefit and as they heal, there will be a multiplier effect for the planet. Everything I do from this point on will include elements of this beautiful work Barbara Stone has brought to my life.

Yes – everything will be easier!

Note: In August and September 2012, I will be offering Soul Detective Sessions at deeply discounted rate so that I might reinforce practice of these techniques in my coaching sessions. For the time being, I will only be offering live soul detective office sessions to clients I have worked with in the past.

Ignoring My Best Advice

Wednesday, February 29th, 2012

In case there was any doubt, I want to assure my readers that even though I am a coach, I am also normal, imperfect and quite human. I make mistakes and goofs just like the rest of you. I even fail to follow my own advice at times.

Today I picked up my journal for the first time in 5 days! I am admitting this to you because journaling is something I recommend in my book and to every client as a habit that brings enormous clarity, healing and growth. Why am I admitting this so honestly today? Because of the clarity I gained as I resumed writing in my journal today. As Homer Simpson would say, “DOH!”

In all seriousness, the main excuse that I failed to journal was because I was on vacation. Although I packed my journal, I never once felt the urge to unpack it. I had slipped into a new routine – very much enjoying warm sun, running on the beach, a chance to sleep in, a new book, movies on my Ipad and just doing nothing. Truly in vacation mode, I never even had a brilliant insight to capture on paper. It’s as simple as that.

The beauty of this is that today I returned to all of my healthy routines including my 5:40 AM alarm, 16 ounces of water upon waking, the Five Tibetan Fountain of Youth Exercises, a breakfast Weight Watchers would be proud to track and making up lost time with my journal. Words poured onto the page as I realized that my good habits are well-established and comfortable. A brief escape to a magical place had merely interrupted my routine in a purely temporary way.

It is okay to break a few rules once in a while. A journal is a fantastic consciousness-building tool, even if you might choose to take a break from it now and then. That’s my best advice for today and I am sticking with it!

My Gift to You – Energy Makeover Book Club Call Recordings

Sunday, December 4th, 2011

It was great having so many of the first readers participating on the Energy Makeover Book Club Calls this week. I really do appreciate your questions and feedback. Since our topics were good ones and many weren’t able to particpate for the live calls, I am placing the audio links here so you can enjoy listening at your convenience.

Recording for the Nov. 28 Call – Topic: Holiday Tips for your Energy Makeover

Recording for the Dec. 1 Call – Topic: Using a Journal to Monitor Your Energy Makeover

Betsy Demonstrates a Great Tip for the Holidays (video too)

Wednesday, November 30th, 2011

In this short video I explain and demonstrate the Zip-UP Technique, mentioned in Chapter 4 of Energy Makeover. It is something we can do every day to strengthen our shield for dealing with difficult people, crowds and energy drains.

The Introduction to my new book – Energy Makeover®

Thursday, June 30th, 2011

Energy Makeover ®© by Betsy Muller 2011

“In every culture and in every medical tradition before ours,
healing was accomplished by moving energy.”
Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, Nobel Laureate in Medicine

I distinctly remember a time when truth about my life purpose hit me right between the eyes – and it terrified me. I was in the middle of a guided imagery session in the office of my friend and colleague Janie Ehrman. I had drifted into a lovely, relaxed state and felt myself fully connected to my wise inner advisor.

It was all going so well until Janie posed this question to my quieted mind, “Who are you?” she asked. Suddenly I heard a familiar voice reply, “I am a spiritual leader.”

The instant my mind heard those words, I broke into a violent burst of tears. When Jane eventually inquired as to what was going on, my shaken voice replied, “I don’t want to do that!” Unfortunately, I also knew deep inside that my wise inner advisor was telling the truth. I wasn’t ready to accept that truth! Unable to see the connection between the stressed out, unhappy woman who was sitting in the recliner that day and the leader I was destined to be, I thought to myself:

“Who would ever want to follow a stressed-out woman who was franticly struggling to get through each day with a fake smile on her face? How could a practical, rational, middle aged woman with over 25 years of solid business management experience, an MBA and a chemistry degree start life over again as a spiritual leader?
What kind of business was that?”

I realize today that my fears had everything to do with the word “spiritual”. I had somehow confused spiritual leadership with preaching and religion – things I never wanted or intended to do. What I had failed to recognize at that time was that SPIRIT IS ENERGY. When energy moves, spirit awakens! My energy was moving and my soul had been activated emotionally and spiritually. There was an attractive glow to that kind of conscious living and it was a quality I wanted to nurture for myself and share with others. That was the kind of spiritual leader I was evolving to be through my own Energy Makeover.

I will admit that my Energy Makeover transformation happened gradually. I began studying Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Touch for Health, Reiki, Neurolinquistic Programming (NLP) and a variety of other healing modalities on weekends. I also attended workshops and became an ordained non-denominational minister. Most of my early transformation involved working on myself, examining how energy self-care created ease in my daily life. The more I used it, everything got easier. I quit my job as General Manager of a group medical practice in early 2005 and soon announced the creation of my new coaching practice. Through speaking and group seminars, I gained confidence as a healer and began attracting a combination of business and energy coaching clients. Eventually I became certified as an Energy Coach, EFT Practitioner and ACEP Energy Health Practitioner.

I intended to publish this book over five years ago, but kept putting it off because I was scared. The excuses I gave myself were endless. I rationalized my reluctance by telling myself that I was not yet experienced enough as an expert, healer, leader, writer or coach to teach anyone what I knew to be true. Frankly, it came down to the fact that I was not ready to endure the criticism that I feared would come from sharing my truth in a way that defied the mainstream logic I had embraced for so many years.

Time, experience and what I know as the grace of God has changed me and allowed me to heal that fear and reluctance. Years of attending conferences, integrating new approaches and witnessing the healing transformation of my clients has been an empowering journey. This time of transformation in my own life has allowed me to see that life need not be such a struggle and that there are incredible opportunities for living in greater health, abundance and joy simply through the awareness and application of energy self-care. I am ready to humbly and honestly share what I know.

I must warn you that this book is not about scientific proof. It is purely my experience and my opinion. I offer a listing of books and references at the end of the book to appease my scientific readers. This book reflects that I believe the most powerful experiences of energy self-care come from experiencing something for yourself. You may enjoy reading, but the best part comes through FEELING as you apply the concepts in YOUR world.

I have been trained in science and have great respect for it, yet I also realize that science has a very hard time measuring subjective feelings and miracles. I often tell my clients and colleagues, “God doesn’t like to be measured!” One of my most beloved teachers and cofounder of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology, David Gruder, PhD taught some important advice during my ACEP certification. He asked all of us to remain in a state of “enlightened stupidity”. What he meant by this was that if you think you know it all, you will always be wrong. It is far better to be curious and open. While I don’t like the idea of being stupid, I adore that enlightenment is the goal.

The day that I first uttered “spiritual leader” was a turning point which has taken me to where I am today and why I need to share what I know with you. You see, I have transformed my fear, healed my reluctance and realized that I am an eternal soul who mindfully chose this human life experience as a spiritual leader to make a difference. I have realized that leaders excel when they are creative, curious, open, balanced, enthusiastic, healthy, youthful and intuitive. I also recognize that utilizing social media, modern technology and having a polished image when working with the media are important tools that leaders must not fear and instead embrace with a positive attitude. Energy Makeover® addresses all of these things. Life in these times is complicated but also very exciting.

You, my dear reader, are a leader whether you are ready to admit it or not. You are attracted to this book because you are already a spiritual seeker and someone who is curious, just as I am. There is something within you reaching for more almost all of the time. Like me, you might also worry that getting older and taking care of the commitments you’ve already made to others is keeping you from fully manifesting your mission. Your soul may be feeling trapped, blocked or restricted too. It is my intention that this book will help you live with greater energy, purpose and ease.

I don’t claim to hold all of the answers for you, but through this book I will share a variety of discoveries that will allow you to experience your own unique Energy Makeover®. This makeover will activate the transformation of your energetic frequency, emotional health and a more powerful connection to everyone and everything. As this happens, your body may heal as you attract resources and find new opportunities for your talents. Spiritual leaders need not worry about leading alone. An army of enlightened leaders is emerging to protect and support one another as part of our mission. This book is my way of helping you navigate this exciting time with ease and in your own unique way. Our unique abilities and experiences give each of us a place in our Divine Creator’s plan.

If you know of a reluctant spiritual leader ready for a positive shift, please do your part by sharing this book with them as well. Please also share your stories of healing and empowerment with me. Know this is just the beginning of an amazing adventure we take together.

With love,

Betsy Muller

Memories of May Lakeside Retreat 2011 (and a fun Video!)

Monday, May 23rd, 2011

Every year I say it was the best yet, and each year I wonder how we can top the year before. Once again, a pleasant and healing weekend was had by all. I am grateful for the women who chose to have this experience, for their respect for our presenters, their great job at setting their own boundaries and the leadership demonstrated by our alumni in attendance. You show me the love and harmony that is so possible in a complicated world.

This is the alternate video version with new music YouTube suggested.

The Happy Plan On Steroids

Monday, February 14th, 2011

There was a super article in the Feb. 8, 2011 Plain Dealer health section by Ellen Jan Kleinerman on the topic of happiness and positive psychology. It was nice to see happiness getting coverage at a time of year when people really do get down in the dumps. I know that because I coach people and see the “February” pattern over and over again. The darkness, winter cold, isolation indoors and the approach of Valentine’s Day can bring on a low mood or trigger a pity party in even the most positive type of person – INCLUDING ME!

There was something HUGE missing from this article, which I am compelled to comment on. It is the power of human energy flow to enhance happiness. One of the best ways to fuel and balance human energy flow is by tapping meridian points with a process called EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques. It’s very simple, looks funny, but it is brilliant and my experience has shown that it works rapidly for most people without negative side effects.

As a way to emphasize my point, I took a look at the 8 point “happiness plan” included in Kleinerman’s article and thought to myself, “How would EFT tapping enhance the outcome?” Here are the 8 points and EFT tapping suggestions on each:

1. Count Your Blessings: While it is great to list what you are thankful for in a daily gratitude journal, to boost the energy of gratitude by stating each blessing out loud while tapping on a specific treatment point. I have a video demonstration of “EFT for Gratitude Enhancement” you can watch at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWmRoTRqMeU

2. Pay attention to little pleasures: People in low states often have a very hard time noticing the little pleasures surrounding them because they are overwhelmed with some big negatives. It is important to acknowledge reality first before choosing to shift awareness to the positive side. The EFT self-care treatment process handles both extremely well by starting with “Even though I am lonely and this job hunt is so exhausting, I choose to awaken my senses to the beauty that surrounds me now.” A sample EFT treatment video for enhancing awareness of simple pleasures, “Awaken my Attention” may be found at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pt_b5LU1KBw

3. Engage in acts of kindness: Emotional or physical pain can be very isolating, making it very difficult to have the energy or awareness to reach out to others. EFT tapping can first be used to help relieve the pain, then engaged to amplify creative ways to reach out to others. There are many ways for kindness to occur and simply tapping while asking the question “How could I express more kindness today?” can suddenly provide insight. My clients have realize that even if they are physically isolated from others, kindness can be offered to animals and pets, through a phone call, voice mail, email or short note. Every act of kindness is significant and need not wait.

4. Learn to forgive: Holding on to resentment, rage, anger and grief is an enormous energy drain and happiness leak. EFT tapping is by far the most outstanding remedy for facilitating forgiveness I have ever come across as a coach and minister. Use the tapping script “EFT for Difficult Relationships posted on my Feb. 14, 2011 blog to help get you started. Call me for a consultation if I can help you develop something more specific for the forgiveness issue you are dealing with.

5. Thank people who help you: Throughout your day there are people offering acts of kindness in your direction. Sometimes it is their job and often it is their choice. Notice and acknowledge their service and kindness. Look them in the eye. Use their name when thanking them. Help them see that they matter and are significant. Every single human longs to be significant. Tap your EFT treatment points while saying the word “thank you” as part of a great routine to get your energy flowing.

6. Spend time with friends or family: It’s not just about spending time – it’s about creating memorable and meaningful time together. Appreciate those who are in your life exactly as they are. Use EFT tapping before your time with friends and family to set a positive intention for how you want to experience and contribute to the happiness of the time spent together. Choose statements which begin with “I am”, “I choose” and “I enjoy” to pump up the positive.

7. Care for your body: I have often said that self-care is a sacred act. By caring for yourself, you prepare yourself to be of highest service to others. EFT tapping for self-care is fast and effective for releasing pain and facilitating comfort. Pay attention to all the ways you can care for your body, through diet, exercise, thought, movement and rest. If you notice any patterns reflecting negligence or self-sabotage, use EFT tapping to move toward better choices. You can only change what you notice and accept. You can get some great sample EFT Statements, my tapping diagram and more by downloading my “Winning at Waist Management Starter Kit” at the link at www.theindigoconnection.com

8. Create ways to deal with stress: Every one of us will fall victim to stress at some point. Balance is a dynamic and ever-changing process. The key is developing resilience and energetic shock absorbers that allow you to gracefully handle what life throws at you, while you keep moving forward. Tap with a focus on what’s bothering you and simply ask for help. It can be a very effective form of surrender through prayer. Having EFT in your toolkit will allow you to get unstuck and de-stressed very rapidly. You’ll find time for a yoga class or a new hobby as overwhelm melts away. You’ll be more likely to stick with positive habits too.

Everyone can learn more about EFT by participating in The World Tapping Summit, a free online event which begins Feb. 21. To learn more and enroll in the program, go to http://www.thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4145574

EFT Treatment for a Difficult Relationship

Monday, February 14th, 2011

It’s Valentine’s day and love is on people’s minds. In the spirit of promoting forgiveness and greater love in the world, I am choosing today to post one of my favorite EFT scripts, written to help melt away the anger, resentment, rage and hurt that only forgiveness can heal. Please try it for any difficult relationship you are challenged with at work or at home. This can also be applied toward people who are no longer living, but need to be forgiven all the same. Forgiveness is a powerful choice. Maybe today is the day to try it.

Choices Statements for a Difficult Relationship
Composed by Betsy Muller

Set Up Statements (rub sore spot or tap karate chop point)
Even though I am powerless against _____’s negativity, I deeply love and accept myself
Even though I never know how ______ will respond to me, I deeply love and …
Even though it doesn’t feel safe to be me when I am around _________, I deeply love …
I am firmly connected to infinite energy, allowing both of us to receive what we need.
I am grounded and protected. My boundaries are safe and solid
I choose to remember I have the freedom and the right to say how I feel
I choose to find safe and compassionate ways to communicate my needs and feelings
I deserve to share my feelings in a way that respects _____ and my own dignity

Negative Round:
I am powerless and alone (top of head)
I can’t say what I really think around … I’ll cause trouble (3rd eye)
I feel like they blame it on me (eyebrow)
I feel disrespected and unappreciated (side of eye)
I’m been silent for far too long (under eye)
I’ve let _____ get to me too many times (under nose)
It drains me to be in this relationship (under lip)
Even if I speak up, _____ won’t listen(collarbone)
Why do I let this get to me? (underarm)
I’m angry when my needs are ignored (under breast)

Positive Round:
I take the time to breathe before each encounter (top of head)
I set a clear intention and intuitively know when and how to speak (3rd eye)
I am committed to a compassionate approach when speaking up (eyebrow)
My presence and voice are powerful and honest (side of eye)
I trust that things are changing for the better (under eye)
I stand up for myself safely (under nose)
I can never be hurt when my intention is peace (under lip)
I express my feelings without judgment (collarbone)
I am heard (underarm)
I offer my voice from a place of love (under breast)

Mixed Round:
I am a victim of a toxic relationship (top of head)
I am able to honestly speak about what bothers me without hurting (3rd eye)
I am distracted by the drama of the angry attack (eyebrow)
I intend to remain safe and peaceful no matter what (side of eye)
They deny me a chance to say what I need or feel (under eye)
I am free and independent of their pull (under nose)
They might pull me into the drama again (under lip)
I am strong, compassionate and protected
There’s nothing I can say or do (underarm)
I create half of the energy in this relationship – and I am strong enough to affect a positive outcome(under breast)

Betsy B Muller, MBA, EFTCert-1, CEC., CEHP 440-238-4731 www.theindigoconnection.com

The Perfect Technique for the New Year

Monday, January 3rd, 2011

There’s one self-care technique that quickly came to mind as one of the best for beginning the new year. That technique is Belly Breathing. Watch this short demonstration video to see how easy it is. Not only does it help you de-stress, but it also envigorates your abdominal region for better health and waist management too. If you look closely, you will see that my cat “Sig” slept through this entire filming session. Must be a Monday after a long holiday! Join me for a free Winning at Waist Management Coaching Call on Jan. 10 at 2 PM EST. To register, go to