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Create a Powerful Year-End Review Process

Monday, December 17th, 2012

As a coach who follows my own advice, I feel strongly about the year-end wrap-up process. Being a solo entrepreneur makes this even more important. When you don’t have someone else doing your year-end performance review and no longer have a boss imposing goals or deadlines, it can be very helpful to acknowledge what you’ve accomplished. Give yourself a great opportunity to reflect, be grateful and to steer a deliberate course for the year ahead. This review goes way beyond the reports that come off my financial tracking system. As you’ll see, it digs deep into the “why” of my business to help a clearer vision to form for what is next.

Below are 7 key categories I recommend you consider for your review:

Professional and Community Groups You Participated In
• How were you involved?
• How many meetings did you attend?
• What benefits do you personally and professionally receive by being part of the organization?
• Will you plan to continue your activity in the coming year?

Special People in Your Life
• Who was part of your circle of influence this year? Review your calendar, email lists and phone messages for referrals, networking and new client inquiries.
• How about connections on Facebook, Linkedin and Twitter?
• Who are you most grateful for?
• If you are a speaker, can you estimate how many audience members heard your message in total?
• Who are your most valuable clients, teachers, mentors and friends?
• Did anyone pass away that you want to remember?

Fun Experiences and Celebrations
• Were there any big celebrations?
• Fun vacations?
• Special nights out?
• Visits from special people

Learning and Growth
• What classes, certifications, teleclasses or workshops were attended?
• Did you earn any new credentials or certifications?
• Which books had the greatest influence on your work or life?
• Which new technologies did you master or at least try?

Pain, Grief and Losses
• Did you suffer any significant changes, losses or set-backs?
• Were there any physical illnesses or injuries that made life rough?
• Are you grieving the loss of a loved one or someone who moved away?

Business and career milestones
• Beyond profit, what can you measure for the year ending?
• How does the year compare with last year, previous history?
• What kind of feedback has come from clients and colleagues about the service you and your business provide?

Serving and Giving
• Where have you volunteered your time and financial support?
• Which charitable organizations have you supported?
• Which boards have you served on?
• How does your business help those who may not be able to afford your services?

Action Steps: Get out a notebook, pen and your calendar from the year just ending. Take time to create a few important categories, and then start tallying up your activities so that you can see the year that just passed from a wider perspective. Take stock of your blessings and feel the good stuff all over again. Use this process to fuel your move forward into the new year. Enjoy!

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Why Me? Attraction, Karma, Fate or Agreement?

Monday, October 15th, 2012

Over the weekend I had the opportunity to attend the Universal Light Expo in Columbus where I attended two presentations about dealing with life’s challenges. Both speakers talked about times when really bad things happen. Pondering those low times, I wonder, is it because you attracted them with your thoughts, that you have some karmic debt to pay off or is it because you agreed to this for the purpose of a necessary soul lesson? Could it be that it’s some mixture of the three?
I have long believed that as spiritual beings, we are here on earth to accomplish expansion of consciousness. Each person plays a role and to some extent, we chose our assignment. Some say we work with our guides and soul council to chose exactly how it would play out – then wipe it from our memory before we are born.

• How could a loving God allow sexual abuse to a child happen as part of consciousness expansion? Is that Karma?

• How could someone who has practiced healthy choices and habits suddenly succumb to a struggle with cancer? Could that be connected to a thought?

• How could a spouse betray a loving partner through infidelity? Is that part of the pre-birth consciousness agreement?

• How could a man rob and kill and innocent bystander? Is that fate?

In a world of “Why me?” all of us must take a step back to witness the situation as it is. That’s the way to find peace with the existence of pain, illness and the hurt that humans place on others. Pain exists. Pain happens. Pain is part of physical existence. It is from that witness place that you can ask yourself. “Now what”?

Could you choose to______?

• Love anyway
• Accept what happened
• Forgive
• Change
• Take Action
• Surrender
• Tap
• Ask for help
• Pray
• See the bigger picture

I recently had a Soul Detective session with a woman who wanted a better understanding of her intuition so that she might improve it. Our session revealed that she had been carrying the earthbound spirit (a ghost) of a child killed in an accident which had attached to her during her own childhood. The spirit had drained energy and scrambled her intuitive abilities for decades. Releasing the spirit was relatively easy. What remains is the question – why did this happen? Would someone create a spirit attachment in their life plan for soul development? Is the bigger plan about letting this woman appreciate the benefits of amplified intuition later in life? Was there some karmic soul connection between the ghost and the woman than needed to play-out? All of this is fascinating, but in the end, what matters is how the woman moves forward.

The true consciousness job is to transform “what is” to something better. That’s where your thoughts and free will come into play! You can be a co-creator of “what’s next” from the position as the observer of “what is” using your unique gifts and talents. There are clues from “what happened” to help shape your life purpose too.

Watch those thoughts and actions. You are creating destiny!

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California Seal Encounter

Thursday, May 31st, 2012

Business has taken me to the Lowe’s Coronado Bay Resort, a lovely waterfront oasis with access to luxurious stretches of Pacific beach. How brilliant I was to plan for some unstructured time before the ACEP conference.

My morning started early, awakened by birdsongs at 5:30 AM. My roommate and I are ready to get going because we are operating on Eastern Time. Splendid!

After a leisurely breakfast in the hotel café we happen to run into no other than Gary Craig, founder of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) as we were leaving the dining area. He’s looking great and as always is generous with a hug. The first words out of his mouth were “Betsy – how’s that ankle doing?” Immediately I thought to myself, “Why is he asking me this? My ankle is great.” Then I quickly remembered exactly what he was referring to. Gary had worked with me on stage 3 years ago on ankle pain. In fact, there is a video of this session. The underlying issue Gary helped me see as connected to my ankle pain was my reluctance to be a “recognized healer”. The demonstration involved surrogate or distance healing with EFT and over 150 practitioners tapping for my benefit while I sat outside by a fountain.

Wow! I don’t recall my ankle being much of a problem at all since then. In fact, if it were ever to act up, today would be the day since I pushed it to the max by running for 60+ minutes on the beach yesterday. Hmmmm…very interesting. Today has presented a moment to bask in sincere gratitude.

Later that morning, I decided to return to the beach for another run. Why not – I am feeling wonderful today! As I made my way down the beach at a steady clip, I marveled again at how my ankle felt so strong, as well as the knee I had surgically repaired 2 years ago. As I looked into the horizon, I saw a crowd of runners approaching from afar. We eventually crossed paths – hundreds of men in uniform moving briskly. Big burley guys, soaking wet, carrying backpacks and covered with sand from head to toe. Most looked visibly miserable. They were Navy Seals in training. My heart went out to them.

Navy Seals are the best of the best – strong, young, exceptionally fit men, trained and pushed to reach way beyond normal human limits. A local woman I met on the beach told me that these guys had probably been up all night rowing and running, pushing their physical boundaries for the benefit of the USA. I imagine each of them knew they already had a gift for physical stamina when they enrolled in this prestigious group. As each man passed, I sent thoughts of appreciation and healing. Did they feel anything? Do any of them know about tapping and Energy Psychology? I smile, nod and silently thank each of them for being part of the force that supports peace on this planet.

After they passed, I thought to myself – we were all having the same experience, yet having such a different experience today. I’m running on this gorgeous beach in my bliss and they are doing the same, in pain. I soon find myself plunging back into gratitude. How lucky I was here to witness this spectacle and awaken me to the beauty of physical endurance.

Yes, thanks to EFT, I also realize that I am comfortable AND a recognized healer. So much more than my ankle was awakened and restored.

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Five Ways to Support a Friend Going Through a Rough Spell

Tuesday, April 3rd, 2012

Life is full of twists and turns. Sometimes it’s you who has the rug pulled out from under your feet, and at other times you are the witness to someone else’s extreme pain. This week I happen to be the witness and realize how much this hurts both me and my friend in completely different ways. We both feel powerless and low. I want to help, yet my hurting friend is retreating into isolation. What can I do?

I took that question to God as part of my morning meditation on a day that will be particularly hard for my friend. I asked what I might do to heal this situation. What would love do? These five answers were offered:

1. Love your friend unconditionally and send that love out to them wherever they are.

2. Pray for all involved.

3. Believe that the pain is resolving in its perfection. Something better is happening right now. Hold that thought and allow it to expand!

4. Be ready to listen, but don’t push for a discussion. Give advice only if asked for it.

5. Ask for the energy of all souls who care for this friend, both living and deceased, to surround them with a loving presence. This field of love will heal the isolation, bringing unification and connection to all involved. Trust this to be true.

I am reminded of one of my favorite phrases, “This too shall pass.” It is true both on good days and in trying times. This is life. Our job throughout this caring process is to be present, accept the present, act from a place of love and stay connected to the bigger realm of possibility. I trust my friend is wrapped in a warm blanket of love right now. I’m wrapped in the same blanket.

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Faith in the Invisible

Friday, April 22nd, 2011

“Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1

Today is Good Friday, a day when we are aware of Jesus’ suffering. A day when Jesus’ followers lost hope and slipped into grief as they helplessly witnessed the crucifixion. We can all connect to the sadness of that human moment, yet know that many invisible things took place after the crucifixion to restore the faith that was lost. Life triumphed over death.

The quote above was given to me on a beautiful plaque by a grateful client several years ago. It hangs in my office today as a constant reminder that my life purpose, mission and my business are all about the invisible, unseen forces that enrich and shift our lives.

Reality exists in both visible and invisible form. We can’t necessarily see love or grief, but it truly exists all around us. Emotions and the energy they carry are strong enough to get our attention and make us pause to check in with the invisible world. Emotions of love, hope, joy and bliss are powerful projectors of energy. Those feelings are radiant and hard to miss. The signals of grief, despair, depression and hopelessness form tight and constricted energy fields around the one in pain. It is harder to pick up on these things because the signal is so weak. If anything, we simply feel that pull from a low energy person that comes when they drain our energy in an effort to replenish their own. It can happen deliberately, or it can happen unintentionally on their part. Either way it is their way of trying to heal their own pain.

Many of my friends, subscribers and colleagues know that I am in the midst of writing a new book titled Energy Makeover. I have been saying “no” to lots of things in order to make this book a priority. There is an invisible force telling me that I must do it NOW, as much as I don’t consider myself much of a writer and I worry that the world may not even want to read what I write. I do it anyway. That is perhaps what faith will inspire within a struggling soul.

Pay attention and minister to the silent pain that is around you today. Your awareness will guide you to serve in a way that fits who you are. For a little more inspiration, watch this excellent short video titled “Get Service” at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfeXxkbgCVE

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Clues for Identity and Purpose – Turning Troubles into Triump

Wednesday, July 1st, 2009

As a coach and healer, I am frequently  allowed a very sacred glimpse into the lives and pain of others.  When I was new to coaching , I was astounded by how much tragedy existed in the lives of otherwise successful looking people.  Clients came to me wanting more success in their lives, yet felt that there was something holding them back.   Unresolved  “pain” kept beneath the surface, stuffed-away and denied WAS silently holding them back.   Once behind a closed door, the unloading begins, knowing that they are safe and that I am a healer, not a judge.   They have heard that Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and Energy Coaching can help quickly.  They are hopeful and open.  They leave lighter, clearer and in better touch with who they are.

Identity is a fragile and important part of the healing and personal development process.  Julia Cameron’s classic The Artists Way reminds us that self-definition is a major part of creative recovery.  Stripping away the ego and distilling down the true essence of the “higher self” is the key to creating a satisfying, comfortable and joyful life.

Yet we continue to resist who we really are! When we deny our true selves, we actually invite more suffering.  I know this to be true in my own life.  A disappointment or a lost opportunity will put me into a funk until I face up to it, accept it, see the lesson and choose to feel better.    I will often develop physical pain or discomfort to get my attention, steer me a new direction or to slow me down when I need to face the truth.  Stuffing away emotions with food or alcohol is another way that resisting the truth can do real harm to physical health.

Resisting your best self can be very painful all by itself.  Even if you don’t have a clue what you are resisting,  I suggest surrendering to that notion and using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT  www.emofree.com), another favorite self-care treatment or positive affirmations to return to a better state of balance.

Allow me to recommend some effective questions to help you get in touch with your identity and higher purpose in a slightly different way:

1.  Think about something painful that you experienced recently.  If there was a life lesson connected to this pain, what might it be?

2.  List your top 10 most difficult or painful experiences so far in this life.  After each one of these indicate why it hurt and what emotion was connected.  Do you notice any common patterns?  Is the pain an integral part of your identity?  Take time to treat these pains with EFT self-care or by working with a competent practitioner.  You need not carry this burden through the remaining years of your life.

3.  Important  lessons  must often be repeated many times before we “get it”.    Are there some major themes to your lessons?  List them.

4.  If your life was trying to give you clues about your life purpose, what are some of those clues?

5.  How could others be served by the lessons you have already learned and conquered?  Give this some serious thought.  Your response will bring you closer to understanding why you are alive today and what purpose you are here to fulfill.

6.  What is still troubling you?  Create an affirmation statement reflecting triumph over this problem.  Repeat this statement daily while doing heart massage or EFT tapping to help integrate the new thought into your awareness.

Below are a few examples transforming troubles into triumphs:

Trouble:  I will never be good enough.  There is nothing special about me.

Triumph: I recognize the value of every person.    I accept myself and know I am valuable to the world.

Trouble:  I am lonely and may never find a partner to share life with me.

Triumph:  I am drawn to places where my partner is waiting for me.  As I seach for him/her, I am rewarded with other new and positive relationships.  I am always in good company.

Trouble:  I never have enough money.  Financial worries weigh me down

Triumph:  Money, gifts and freebies are flowing easily to me.  I am responsible and joyful as I earn, spend, save and share.  I am grateful for this blessing.

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