Posts Tagged ‘Gratitude’

Gratitude for Another Year

Wednesday, February 27th, 2013

Today is my 54th birthday.

Several years ago I promised myself to never again celebrate my birthday in Ohio. I’m sad to report that the promise has been broken. I am spending this birthday in dreary, rainy and cold Ohio. On top of that it is a Wednesday which does not lend itself to parties or celebration.

This could be the start of a pity party; however I am choosing to celebrate all week long. Why not make this the best birthday yet? This day feels sunny because I choose to see it as bright and fun. Here’s what I love:

I love to awaken refreshed and ready for the day to begin. Sleeping in was not necessary today (although I could have)

I love that I had the energy to exercise first thing AND my previously disabled knee was strong and solid.

I love that I can still do 25 military pushups in a row in good form.

I love the sweet card my husband left on the kitchen table for me

I love my bullet blender and the delicious green drink it created for my birthday breakfast.

I love that I made time to read and write this morning in my chair by the fireplace

I love that I am meeting my parents for lunch today at a little French bistro. I already know I am going to order escargot.

I love all the cards, email and Facebook greeting that are coming my way today. How can I personally thank each one of you?

I love that my Artists Way/Awaken Creativity group meets today.

I love that I haven’t yet decided what I will choose do tonight to celebrate.

I love that the celebration continues with lunch on Friday with my sister Suzanne.

I love that George is taking me out to a special place this weekend and the fact that he is my very best friend.

I love that there is so much to live for. May your life be filled with love and joy too.

What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Monday, February 11th, 2013

Do you remember the lyrics to the popular Tina Turner song, What’s Love Got to Do With It? How dare she refer to love as a “second-hand emotion”!

As Valentine’s Day approaches, there is plenty of talk about love out there. How are the words about love falling on your ears? I found myself thinking of a friend who suddenly became a widow last month and wonder what it must be like having her first Valentine’s Day without him. Will friends reach out to her? Will she take steps to get out into the world to let us hug her and help her heal? Today also reminds me that this week can be rough for the singles who are not currently in relationships while the rest of the world seems to be paired up in bliss. Love or the lack of love has EVERYTHING to do with how they might be feeling.

How can each of us fill that empty love space and brighten a bleak February day? The only way to do that is to find the love in our lives right now. This need not be romantic love, but simply something that you thoroughly enjoy having in your life. This need not be expensive, elaborate or even material. The key to the delight is realizing you LOVE and appreciate something.

As I reflected on my own experience of love in today’s life experience, the following list surfaced in my journal:
• A soft chair in the sunroom
• A husband who does laundry
• Bird feeders filled with seed
• Blueberries in February
• Healthy houseplants
• Fresh cup of bold coffee
• Exercise before breakfast
• Evidence of bulbs sprouting outside my window
• Pure drinking water

I could probably go on and on with this list, but you get the idea. When you make this kind of list, it is a love-filled expression of gratitude sending positive energy out into the world around you. Having spent time reflecting on what you love, you become aligned with love.

What do you think you receive and experience when aligned with love? The answer is MORE to LOVE.

Are you a skeptic about this? Try making this kind of list daily for 10 days and let me know what happens. If you need help finding the love in your life right now, I’d be happy to help you. The love is there and your mission is to find it.

The Healing Power of Holiday Gratitude Moments

Monday, November 19th, 2012

It is not unusual for me to post on Facebook when something provokes my sense of gratitude. It is a way I pause in appreciation and also remind my friends that even the smallest things count when it comes to being grateful. Imagine my surprise when a comment came in response to one of my posts this weekend accusing me of being self-centered and ignoring the needs of the poor and homeless. OUCH! That was not the kind of response I had expected, yet it happened.

It made me wonder what that might have triggered that individual’s response. Was it more about what was going on in the life of the commenter or was it about me? Should I be less grateful publicly in the future?

After coming off of a week dedicated to hosting a very successful fundraiser for the Cleveland Pregnancy Center, leading groups, speaking and volunteering my time to two different non-profits, I know I am not a self-centered person and as much as that comment hurt my feelings, I can’t allow myself to own that comment. What I can do is continue to reach out through life and business to help others find more bright moments within their lives.

It is quite possible that some of you reading this might encounter “energy vampires” during the days ahead in spite of the festive Thanksgiving theme. What can each of us do to avoid an energy drain or worse – becoming one of those energy suckers ourselves?

Support others as you are able. When you begin to feel depleted, stop! True giving energizes the giver. Take time to take good care of yourself. Pay attention to how you feel as you give of your time, resources and attention.

Be aware that people may be sensitive to your good fortune. Temper your comments with sensitivity to the audience. Be aware that things you say and do may be twisted by their perspective and taken as you did not intend. Apologize for triggering the response, but allow yourself to hold on to the original gratitude moment.

Speak up and ask for the help you need. Holidays are a time when everyone’s to-do lists and stresses get bigger. Speak up sooner rather than later. Whether it is with cleaning, shopping, or doing dishes after that big family gathering, don’t assume everyone can read your mind. ASK!

Receive and acknowledge help from others graciously. Help may not always come in the form you had imagined. Take it anyway and say “thank you”. A hand written note is also a nice way to create a permanent expression of your gratitude.

Start a gratitude journal. Every day as part of my daily writing habit, I take a moment to jot down at least five things I am grateful for. Coaching clients and participants in my creativity groups are also urged to take on this habit. There is evidence that those who take time for daily gratitude are thriving.

According to research summarized by Robert Emmons in his book Thanks! gratitude journal keepers reported:

• Feeling better about their lives overall
• More optimistic about the future
• Fewer health problems than the other participants.
• Improved sleep
• Protective effect against heart attacks

All of the above contribute to optimal health, which is something we all want.

As the frosty mornings and the emerging holiday sales call for our attention, Thanksgiving Day provides a chance to pause and celebrate the good that has come to our lives. Be sensitive to the needs of the world that are yet unmet, and do your part to heal yourself as you give and serve. The world is a better place when we pause to appreciate. Make it a habit!

If you need more help with staying strong this holiday season, I hope you’ll check out my book, Energy Makeover – A Conscious Way to Stay Young, Have Fun and Get More Done! and the Energy Makeover Daily Journal at www.energymakeover4u.com and available on www. Amazon.com. You are also invited to join me for a live event at 7PM on Nov. 28 Practical Energy Self-Care Tips and Holiday Survival Tune-Up. Details at http://eftholidaytips.eventbrite.com/

The Art of Thrills and Expectations

Tuesday, October 23rd, 2012

Wal-Mart founder Sam Walton once said “High expectations are the key to everything.”

I am in complete agreement. High expectations are thoughts that are punctuated with images, feelings, dreams and ENERGY. Low expectations, on the other hand, are bland, apologetic and bracing for disappointment. Setting expectations is a choice. Have you checked your expectations today?

As an energy coach, a big part of my role working with clients is to help them create bigger and more exciting expectations for themselves. To be authentic in my work, I must constantly push my own expectations to higher places. I have come to love the challenge of that.

I don’t let disappointment invade my state of balance. I am not afraid of disappointment anymore. Fortunately I have energy self-care and EFT tapping to help me move on quickly after things don’t seem to go as planned. Now I believe in thrilling possibilities.

I remember entering a contest back in February 2012 which offered a spa vacation trip for two to Sedona AZ as a prize. As I entered that contest, I imagined myself taking that trip and enjoying it fully. I knew no matter what, that I would go to Sedona, even if I didn’t win that contest, and I allowed the thought of that to grow in my heart. Want to know something really cool? I won the contest and will be flying off with one of my girlfriends to enjoy that prize in a few days.

Where can you play with your expectations a bit in the next few days? One thrill you might enjoy is star-gazing. This week there is a higher likelihood of seeing a shooting star, especially if you are out on a clear night. I imagined myself witnessing the predicted meteor shower while outside on Saturday night, gazing at the clear sky and a beautiful array of sparkling stars. Did I see a single shooting star? NO! Determined not to give up, I showed up for star-gazing again early Monday morning, even though the odds of seeing a meteor were much lower. I kept looking straight up – and NOTHING but stillness. For a brief second, I shifted my gaze to the western horizon, and there it was – a brilliant bright meteor falling across the sky. Not where I had set my expectation, but showing up anyway.

What a thrill! Little things like that make my day and get jotted down on the gratitude list inside my daily journal. In spite of my expectations, the outcome was exceptional. The emotional boost resulted in a very productive day.

What might you expect for yourself today? I hope you set those expectations high.

Summer 2012 – Amplifying the Experience of Gratitude

Sunday, July 15th, 2012

I woke up this morning and took a long breezy ride on my new Schwinn bike. This experience stirred up many gratitude memories – the bargain price, finding it in stock, right in my home town, how pretty it is (even though it is white and purple, not indigo), the discounts I nabbed on the accessories, a new option for transportation, and the pleasant exercise challenge cycling offers. Every time I pass my bike in the garage, I can’t help but smile and feel all happy inside.

It is very valuable to take stock of gratitude on a daily basis. According to Robert Emmons, author of Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happy, people who write down 5 things they are grateful for each day report:

o Feeling better about their lives overall
o More optimistic about the future
o Fewer health problems than the other participants.
o Improved sleep
o Protective effect against heart attacks

Guiding others in gratitude practice as part of coaching has raised my awareness about the blessings in life and also about the emotions and feelings that are woven into the gratitude experience. Clients often ask what I put on my list each day. I used to be surprised about this, but now realize that many people feel challenged as they begin. I remind them that little things are very important. Here are some of my favorites from the past month:

o Technology for conference call worked flawlessly
o Weight Watchers friends who inspire me with stories of their health recovery at today’s meeting
o The sparkling sun in the early morning
o My friend Patti looking so healthy and radiant after beating pancreatic cancer
o New butterfly twinkle lights for the patio (a bargain and they change colors in a cool rhythm)
o The audio book, After Life, that keeps me wanting more (+ got it free at Book Expo)
o A little boy’s hearty laugh during a show at Lakeside
o Coffee break with Sig and Gracie on the patio
o How kind my women’s group members are to one another
o Fresh flowers everywhere!
o Delicious new recipe with chick peas (healthy, pretty and filling!)

What you might have noticed is that many of these things aren’t about what you have or own, but about experiences and moments of delight. They are moments when you witness something that excites your values and what you hold dear.

Clients have admitted that they can write the list, yet don’t feel the powerful positive feeling they want to feel. As with any new and developing habit, patience and persistence are advised. You build these skills, experiences and feelings over time. Be both curious and open.

As a guideline, I would suggest the following to boost your awareness and positive feelings:

Notice what grabs your attention. You will find yourself distracted every day, often in a good way. Catch yourself in the present moment and make a mental note about what is there. What’s the best part? How are you experiencing the moment? This can happen while eating lunch, doing mundane household chores or during meetings.

Use all of your senses to uncover both the obvious and hidden gems. Gratitude moments exist in every corner of life. Challenge yourself to find the less obvious things. You might also ask others to help you notice the world around you through their experiences. Slow down a bit and notice details, sounds, tastes, scents, words, music and creations around you.

Share your gratitude awareness with others. A very pleasant conversation should follow. There is so much good in the world. You do your part by spreading it around. There are many who are stuck or simply not plugged into this habit yet. You can get them thinking and their comments may prod you to enjoy even greater appreciation for life. Perhaps they will even add YOU to their gratitude list for the day!

Going Deep Into Gratitude

Friday, November 18th, 2011

It’s that time of year when being thankful, grateful and appreciative is at “top of mind” as the Thanksgiving Holiday approaches. We all know that we should be grateful and have probably heard far too many people (including me) urge you to keep gratitude journal so that you might keep gratitude at the top of your awareness. It really works, and if you are not fully immersing yourself in at least being curious about gratitude, you may well be missing one of the easiest ways to lift your emotional state and make a solid soul connection with another human ever known to mankind.

Today I want to remind you of a very powerful tool that combines gratitude with connection. This tool requires taking time to sit down and write a thank you note, by hand, to someone you appreciate. This is one of the Practice Time exercises I recommend in my book Energy Makeover on page 70. It may seem like a small thing, but I know that doing this offers the potential to deeply enrich a relationship.

I remember writing such a note to my father shortly after I attended a speech given by my friend Lisa Ryan earlier this year. I was pretty sure Dad already knew how much I loved and respected him, but when that letter arrived, my Dad called me to tell me that the letter brought tears to his eyes. I never imagined that!

After readers started making their way through the first few chapters of my book, I received a beautiful hand written letter from my dear friend and loyal retreat participant Judy. Judy wrote to me because of page 70. I felt tears well up too!

Yesterday I received this lovely email from Susan Mitchell, a reader and friend from my Jazzercise class.

I was reading the chapter where you say to write a note “do it now” to anymore that means a great deal to you. So I quickly wrote a card to a nurse here at CCF that is very intuitive (she actually called me that very morning to reach out and connect because she could feel I needed someone to talk to which she never did in the past) She called me down to her area grabbed my hands and prayed over me. The next day she received my card in the mail and CRIED. What a connection we have. So I have been blessed with angels around me.”

Those tears that the recipient experiences are a sign that the heart has been touched. You have connected in a very special way on the soul level through a gesture of deep appreciation. The bond will be permanent and profound. Trust me on this.

I urge everyone reading this to bare their soul and tell someone how significant they are and how much you appreciate them. Even if you think they already know what you will write, write it anyway. You risk nothing and may just gain a profound soul connection.

Wisdom from a Weekend in Lily Dale, New York

Monday, August 15th, 2011

Yesterday I returned from my third visit to Lily Dale, NY – a lovely spiritualist community on the western edge of New York State. It is one of the magical places I recommend in my upcoming book Energy Makeover. Over the years I have held great reluctance and negative judgment around psychic readings and mediums. It wasn’t until I came to Lily Dale in 2009 that I changed my tune and realized that the mediums working here were ethical and very loving servants bringing comfort to those seeking answers and a higher purpose. It doesn’t hurt that Lily Dale is charming, historic, beautiful and full of fun things to do and learn.

On this trip I traveled with 4 female friends primarily to attend the Friday and Saturday seminars with nationally known mediums Sharon Klingler (sharonklingler.com) and John Holland (www.johnholland.com). During our trip we also had plenty of time to wander the grounds, journal, talk, dine and attend the public readings at Inspiration Stump. We enjoyed near perfect weather, a full moon and many “goose bump moments”.

I am compelled to share thoughts of gratitude and lessons that were part of the latest experience so that you, too can ponder application to your own spiritual growth.

Top 10 Lessons Learned from Mediums Sharon Klingler and John Holland

1. Receive and Deliver. Just like a mailman, take the information given without analyzing it, find the place where it needs to go and move on quickly.
2. You can’t be a medium unless you are psychic.
3. Let go of judgment
4. Keep studying. Everything you know will be used by spirit to serve you and your clients.
5. Always bring in family and friends first when doing readings. Evidence raises frequency, which amplifies more information flow.
6. You are Divine. There is no need for protection because YOU can do it.
7. Be more perceptive than reflective. Feel more….think less
8. Someone who took their life will always show themselves accompanied by another spirit.
9. Always provide clients with choices. Make the information verifiable and flexible.
10. Use Stephen OBrien’s CERT formula for readings. CERT stands for:
* Confirmation
* Evidence
* Return helpful support
* Tie up loose ends

Overall Conclusion: Business people could learn quite a bit by studying mediums. It really is about being open and present to hearing/seeing/feeling what the market or client needs, then responding in a timely way without overthinking. Confirmation really means asking questions to ensure there is a good fit for that response. When that fit is there, evidence is obvious, emotions lift and harmony prevails.

Gratitude Moments from Visit Three
Gorgeous blue skies and soft clouds
Excellent coffee, amazing blueberry crumb cake and fun atmosphere at Cup-O-Joe (a must do stop!)
Courteous, curious and open-minded travel buddies
A peaceful environment full of pleasant people
Great 3rd row seminar seats (arrived early for first come, seat selection)
Having my name drawn for a free book by Sandra Taylor
The stillness and bird songs at Inspiration Stump
The healing power that comes from knowing that souls are eternal
Realizing that I reliably connect with information from the spirit world
Safe journey there and back home again.

You can see some of our photos from the trip on my facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/betsy.muller

Learn more about Lily Dale at www.lilydaleassembly.com

Grace and Gratitude

Sunday, June 12th, 2011

I found myself on a deck with a steamy cup of Cafe Verona, my journal and the sun on my face this morning and smiled realizing how much I needed this very simple vacation. The outer banks of North Carolina is a place that I have carried in my heart since my first visit in third grade and countless weeks of vacation here in almost every stage of my life. In medation this is where I often take myself, especially on a cold winter’s day…..BUT TODAY I AM REALLY HERE AND IT IS AWESOME

Here’s the view from my chair:

It has been 5 years since my last visit to this beautiful place. That visit in 2006 was a stark contrast. It took place just 3 days after I was diagnosed with a strange hyperthyroid condition. I arrived on that vacation as an invalid of sorts. On two new medications, I was cautioned by my doctor not to drive and to relax as much as possible. I remember a frightening 135 bpm heart rate, pain and fatique throughout my body. Each night I had severe leg cramps and was barely able to sleep because my pounding heart kept me awake. A short walk down to the ocean or a flight of stairs exhausted me. Unable to enjoy walks or even sitting still, one thing I was able to do really well during that vacation was eat whatever I liked without gaining weight. I could also drink more wine than usual without adverse affects. I basically became a gluton for the week and embraced that experience for the blessing it was.

What a contrast to NOW! I slept like a rock last night. A long run on the beach this morning was effortless and flowing. My mind is clear and full of joyful thoughts. My dog Gracie is with us and she loves this new environment. I adore seeing the wonder and curiousity through her doggie experience. Surrounded by people I love, who are all enjoying themselves, this is exactly the vacation I asked for and received. Sending prayers of gratitude for a beautiful week of vacation unfolding. Excuse me – I feel the water calling me.

Inspired by a Letter From Japan

Friday, March 18th, 2011

Earlier this week, I received an email from my friends Corky Larsen and Barb Clough which shared an beautiful letter written on Monday March 14 by Anne Thomas, a woman living in Sendai, Japan. Just reading this letter brought a wave of calm into my awareness, as images of human cooperation, kindness and faith spilled from the page. Anne shares stories of people behaving beautifully together in the midst of chaos! Anne is clearly coming from a place of pure faith. Her words are upbeat and sunny in spite of what she personally has been through. You really feel the gratitude spilling out of each line. That message makes my heart sing. The fact that this letter is is real and true makes me ever more hopeful that our world is a very special place where humans are evolving in a way that makes God smile.

I am sharing Anne’s letter below, and hope it will brighten your day as well. Please keep sending your support and prayers to the amazing people of Japan as they heal and rebuild their lives.

A letter from Sendai by ANNE THOMAS 3/14/2011
published online @ Ode magazine

Things here in Sendai have been rather surreal. But I am very blessed to have wonderful friends who are helping me a lot. Since my shack is even more worthy of that name, I am now staying at a friend’s home. We share supplies like water, food and a kerosene heater. We sleep lined up in one room, eat by candlelight, share stories. It is warm, friendly, and beautiful.

During the day we help each other clean up the mess in our homes. People sit in their cars, looking at news on their navigation screens, or line up to get drinking water when a source is open. If someone has water running in their home, they put out a sign so people can come to fill up their jugs and buckets.

It’s utterly amazingly that where I am there has been no looting, no pushing in lines. People leave their front door open, as it is safer when an earthquake strikes. People keep saying, “Oh, this is how it used to be in the old days when everyone helped one another.”

Quakes keep coming. Last night they struck about every 15 minutes. Sirens are constant and helicopters pass overhead often.

We got water for a few hours in our homes last night, and now it is for half a day. Electricity came on this afternoon. Gas has not yet come on. But all of this is by area. Some people have these things, others do not. No one has washed for several days. We feel grubby, but there are so much more important concerns than that for us now. I love this peeling away of non-essentials. Living fully on the level of instinct, of intuition, of caring, of what is needed for survival, not just of me, but of the entire group.

There are strange parallel universes happening. Houses a mess in some places, yet then a house with futons or laundry out drying in the sun. People lining up for water and food, and yet a few people out walking their dogs. All happening at the same time.

Other unexpected touches of beauty are first, the silence at night. No cars. No one out on the streets. And the heavens at night are scattered with stars. I usually can see about two, but now the whole sky is filled. The mountains are Sendai are solid and with the crisp air we can see them silhouetted against the sky magnificently.

And the Japanese themselves are so wonderful. I come back to my shack to check on it each day, now to send this e-mail since the electricity is on, and I find food and water left in my entranceway. I have no idea from whom, but it is there. Old men in green hats go from door to door checking to see if everyone is OK. People talk to complete strangers asking if they need help. I see no signs of fear. Resignation, yes, but fear or panic, no.

They tell us we can expect aftershocks, and even other major quakes, for another month or more. And we are getting constant tremors, rolls, shaking, rumbling. I am blessed in that I live in a part of Sendai that is a bit elevated, a bit more solid than other parts. So, so far this area is better off than others. Last night my friend’s husband came in from the country, bringing food and water. Blessed again.

Somehow at this time I realize from direct experience that there is indeed an enormous Cosmic evolutionary step that is occurring all over the world right at this moment. And somehow as I experience the events happening now in Japan, I can feel my heart opening very wide. My brother asked me if I felt so small because of all that is happening. I don’t. Rather, I feel as part of something happening that much larger than myself. This wave of birthing (worldwide) is hard, and yet magnificent.

Thank you again for your care and Love of me,

With Love in return, to you all,

Anne

You can read a more recent 3/17 update from Anne Thomas at http://www.odemagazine.com/blogs/readers_blog/24805/a_spirit_of_endurance_in_japan

Pump Up Gratitude with EFT

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

Gratitude is one of the most powerful ways to boost your ability to attract relationships, opportunities, health, money and more happiness. Many of us have gratitude journals or set aside time each day to mindfully be grateful. That is fabulous! Please keep it up.

I’d like to give you one more strategy you might enjoy using to boost your energy of attraction. Try tapping on the EFT treatment points while speaking your words of gratitude each day. In today’s video, I demonstrate a sample treatment sequence so you can get a sense of how I do it. There’s really no way to mess this up, so give it a try. Let me know what you think and how it works for you.