Archive for November, 2009

Coffee Breaks And Scones

Monday, November 30th, 2009

There is a friend of mine who has been patiently asking me to share the recipe for tart cherry scones I made for an event last Valentine’s Day. As a little holiday gift, you’ll find it at the end of this post, but first let’s talk about coffee breaks since these are really the heart of the matter.

What do you think when you hear “coffee break”? A quick run to Starbucks? Warming a cup in the microwave to get you through the afternoon? A special time to catch up on communication with a friend, family member or colleague?

Afternoon breaks for a hot beverage have been a part of my life for about as long as I can remember. My mother brought back an affection for preparing afternoon teas as part of her experience as an exchange teacher in Wales before I was born. When I traveled to Australia as a teenager, morning and afternoon “coffee” was part of a ritual I enjoyed at school and at home. The Aussies called it “coffee” even if they had tea or another beverage. I was particularly impressed that it was a time that brought families, siblings and neighbors around the table for solid communication. Cultures with these similar British roots placed a value on taking a break, sipping a hot beverage and pausing for conversation and connection.

It’s unfortunate that here in the US we tend to work through our lunches and coffee breaks more often than we would like to admit. I’m guilty of it too. Today I remind myself that taking a real pause for a beverage and to honor somebody else by listening and sharing is worth doing more often.

The holiday season is a great time to begin. Invite someone for coffee or tea, and give yourself a break too. You can meet at a coffee place, or invite them over. If you have children around, invite them to share a break at the kitchen table with you. If you really want to make it really special, bake up some scones with the recipe below. This recipe comes from my friend Eve Hill who is a local expert on the custom of high tea. This is the best recipe I have found for scones.

Eve Hill’s Kensigton Palace Scones
1/2 C veg. shortening (Crisco)
1/3 C butter
2 C all purpose flour
1/4 C sugar
3/4 tsp. salt
1 T baking powder
1/3 C Milk
1 beaten egg
Optional: dried tart cherries, raisins or apricots

Sift together flour, sugar salt and baking powder. Mix with butter and shortening using a pastry cutter until crumbs are about the size of peas. Add milk and egg, stir lightly with a fork until just barely mixed. Add dried fruits if desired. Do not over mix! Turn onto a floured surface and knead 8-10 times, folding over entirely onto itself on the last kneading. Pat or roll to 1/2 inch height and cut with a heart shaped or round biscuit cutter. Bake on middle rack of oven at 415 degrees for 12-15 minutes or until golden. An egg wash or 1 egg and 1/4 C water may be brushed on the tops before baking to give scones a more traditional finish. Serve warm with butter, jam and clotted cream.

Note: Cut unbaked scones can be frozen for convenient baking as needed.

Shifting Up At Thanksgiving

Monday, November 23rd, 2009

I was listening to a lively discussion on our local NPR station this morning about the many benefits of gratitude. One of the things I learned is that slow economic times and personal hardships often help people become more aware of many blessings in their lives. Is it possible that humans are hard-wired to return to a place of gratitude when the going gets tough? How might we use this to our advantage?

Thanksgiving week reminds us to be aware of our blessings. It also reminds us that we have all sorts of distractions and stresses we must attend to including shopping, cleaning, cooking, entertaining, dressing up and social events. Maybe we will also see people we haven’t been with for a long time. Worse yet, we may be forced to spend time with people we don’t even feel comfortable around. My heart goes out to those who also struggle with travel, living out of a suitcase and sleeping in a strange bed this long weekend. No wonder many will experience feelings of fear, lack, stress, judgment, panic and rejection along with their Thanksgiving experience.

Remember – Your thoughts are Your Choice!
Pay attention to how you feel this Thanksgiving. Even before you gather with family and friends, notice something good, choose to be grateful about it and amplify the feeling. Once in the midst of your holiday experience, as you notice a negative thought, emotion or feeling, also be fully present to it. Realize that you can choose to shift your attention to something better by simply thinking about one of your blessings. Don’t let the family drama pull you in, just observe the scene, accept it and then choose something better to occupy your awareness. Sometimes it helps to whisper “thank you” as you think about something good (like the great day you had last weekend), then let your spirit shift up.

Helping Others Shift Up
You have the opportunity to shift more than yourself up this holiday season. Strong, happy people have a responsibility to invoke contagious gratitude and appreciation in others too. Here are a few ideas:
1. Invite someone to join you for a walk outside
2. Write a thank you note to your host or hostess
3. Compliment sincerely and publically so that many will know your appreciation
4. Look a holiday sales clerk in the eye, smile and thank them for their service
5. Smile wherever you go. Witness and pause before reacting or speaking.
6. Invite someone to sit down with you in a quiet place for tea or coffee – honor them by listening fully.

Acknowledge that holidays can be stressful and choose to make this year a better experience. Thanksgiving is a great dress rehearsal for the parties and gatherings December will soon bring. Shift up and the world will rise up along with you.

Rituals for Success

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving… and that’s your own self.”

-Aldous Huxley

When striving for balance, both in life and at work, it is the small things we do within our daily routines that become the foundation upon which we build our long-term success. Whether it is the way we treat people, how we eat, spiritual practices or our method of regular self-care, the consequences of these small choices are immense.

Rituals are something we do regularly and easily. They reflect our beliefs, needs and values. Rituals are individual and are often habitual as these small actions become woven into our daily processes. Some rituals can work against you too. Awareness of routines, both positive, negative and our potential new choices is key.

One ritual I added to my life back in 2000 was daily practice of the 5 Tibetan “Fountain of Youth” Exercises. This 10 minute daily practice promised that I would enjoy greater flexibility, optimal endocrine/hormone balance and a higher level of stamina as I aged. After practicing the exercises for a few months, they became an easy routine for the start of each day. I could do them automatically without thinking. I could do them whether I was at home, in a hotel room or even in a tiny cruise ship stateroom. The benefits were measurable. I also experienced a much stronger connection to God and the world around me as a result of this practice, which was an unexpected delight. I suppose this was the real reason the Tibetan monks took on this practice so many hundreds of years ago!

On November 11, 2009 during the regular monthly Indigo Connection womens breakfast gathering we explored “Rituals for Success” as our topic. I called upon the women to inspire each other with the ways they add meaningful choices to daily life. Markers in hand, they paraded around the room to lively music, writing on posters to express and share their ideas.

I promised the group I would capture their writings and rituals here in the blog, so they might remember all these ideas, and also share them with people who missed the live program. Sometimes we forget we have the power to take on a few new ideas, even when it seems we’re stuck in a rut! November is a great time of year to consider changes before the holidays and New Year are upon us.

Here’s what they came up with:

Health and Physical Fitness

Listen to my body

Drink plenty of water

Lift weights

Qi Gong

Sleep 8 hrs./night

Massage once a month

Yoga

Jazzercise

Pilates

Probiotics

Curves

Measure my waistline & waist/hip ratio

Join Hiking Club

Move more

Treat exercise like an appointment

Walk outside

Deep breathing

Vacuuming is exercise too

Diet and Nutrition

Food Journal

Plan Ahead

Drink at least 8 glasses of water

Cold-processed flax seed oil

Eat for your blood type

Fish Oil Capsules

Portion control

Don’t eat after dinner

Take multivitamin/supplements

Whole foods – no chemicals

Read food labels

Eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables 5+ daily

Calcium + Vit. D

Protein Shakes

An apple a day

Avoid excessive dark chocolate

Eat breakfast

Plenty of Fiber

Hygiene and Beauty

Thorough Hand Washing

Sleep 8 hours

De-stress with exercise

Drink plenty of H20

Floss

Exfoliate/Scrub

Moisturize & tone

Shower

Lip Gloss

Sunscreen every day

Galvanic spa facials

Wash face before bed

Get some sunshine

Career, Business and Finance

Plan my day

Check emails & return calls

Balance check book

“to do” lists

Read the paper

Belong to a professional organization in my field

Set goals

Connect with others

Donate to charities

See financial planner regularly no matter how much I have

Pay off credit cards every month

Use cash only for gifts and extras

Plan plan plan

Save my loose change for fun extras

Delegate

Collaborate with others

Attend networking meetings

Take more classes

Marketing

Post something on my social media page

Share what I know to help other people

Spirituality, Consciousness and Learning

Connect with my higher self

Accept everyone I meet for who they are

Say my rosary

Read Books

Read professional article daily

Watch a sunset or sunrise

Qi Gong Daily practice

5 Tibetan Rites

Be in the present moment several times a day

Forgiveness

Join a bible study group

Practice Tai Chi Chih

Reiki

Pray

Volunteer at church

Online classes

Be grateful for my life and gifts

Walk journal

Gratitude journal

Walk in nature

Send healing energy to the world

Meditation (in hot-tub, even better)

Relationships and Serving Others

Be present with anyone who is with me

Make coffee for my husband every AM

Volunteer in my community/church

Hug my boys

Call mom/dad

Take time to listen

Connect with best friends

Help everyone I meet as best I can

Write letters to friends

Let people help me when they offer

Ask how I could help

Say “I LOVE YOU”

Pray for others

Serve as a board member/leader

Babysit

Donate for fundraisers or charities

Give hugs that “mean it”.

Open up to others

Send emails just to stay in touch

Join a group with my husband

I hope you might have found a great new idea on these lists. Remember that it takes about 21 days for a new action to become a true habit. Make a commitment to begin a small step toward a new ritual in your life. You could be 3 weeks away from “automatic”.

Defining Ourselves Publicly – Is it “What You Do” or “Who You Are”?

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

As a business owner and active networker, I have come to know and expect that I will be asked to introduce myself in 30 seconds or less. That is a tall order when you are a complex individual, as most of us are. How do you share the truth, keep it short and encourage further engagement with such a limited introduction? Do we really reveal any truth at all when we share WHAT WE DO instead of communicating WHO WE ARE?

One of the things I am still personally struggling with is the part of my work as an Energy Coach that puts me smack dab into the role of “healer”. There is a mystical side of energy work that often goes beyond explanation, yet delivers amazing transformations. My clients often experience something miraculous, including a release of physical symptoms, a collapse of chronic sadness or anger, and a whole new outlook on life. I personally don’t take credit for it, but rather see it as my ability to get out of the way and allow a powerful force of good to work through me. I continue to wonder, is it “what I do” or is it “who I am”?

My own clients also use the word “intuitive” when they reflect on my services in their written feedback. I agree, intuition is another quality I demonstrate, and again it is something that works through me. The question remains, is it “what I do” or “who I am”?

It occurred to me that my reluctance to tell anybody that I am a healer or intuitive is that it still feels uncomfortable for me, having come from a more conventional background:

1. It creates a big expectation
2. It invites skepticism
3. It sounds a bit arrogant

I guess it also occurs to me that business people don’t usually do healing or intuitive work. At least I don’t hear it come up much in those other 30 second commercials I hear at networking events.

I’m beginning to realize that my identity as a HEALER and an INTUITIVE, combined with my practical business side is one of the greatest gifts I offer the planet. Shame on me for hiding it! I am one of those complex people who have a very diverse range of interests and talents. Yes, I also travel on the edge of my own comfort zone.

I urge you too to examine your own beliefs about the identity you bring to the world and the marketplace. Are you holding a reluctance to express something about what you do or who you really are? By doing so, are you limiting your own successes and ability to reach the perfect clients? Are you hiding your most powerful gift of service?

I realize today that I need to change my message and be forthcoming about my role as a healer and intuitive. Although some people may be put-off by those words, I do my very best work for those that embrace the totality of who I am. You too can improve how you define yourself publicly. Get busy re-writing your 30 second commercial and see what happens!