Archive for May, 2009

A Little Slice of Heaven on Earth

Monday, May 18th, 2009

This past weekend I had the honor of hosting a very diverse group of 25 women for a weekend retreat titled “It’s a Beautiful Life”. I came to the realization that this complex experience was nearly perfect as everything came together – weather, people, food, resources, natural beauty, healing, content and timing. I had created “a little slice of heaven” for these wonderful people! A vision resulted in physical manifestation once again.

I particularly loved how well all of the participants got along. They mingled so comfortably from the very beginning. Groups would form, connect then separate to naturally form new clusters. Cliques did not exist. I realized that everyone felt like they could sit with anybody and feel accepted, comfortable and in a safe place. That is indeed the true definition of beauty and it doesn’t cost a dime. It simply came through my intention. That realization brought tears to my eye as I wrote in my journal this morning.

My life purpose is about creating those slices of heaven.

During the weekend our group watched the powerful film “The Secret Life of Bees” which provided outstanding examples of unconditional acceptance of diversity: observation without judgment and the healing power of love. It reinforced the message of blissful co-existence and helped me realize my gift as a facilitator to create a place where people can be themselves, open their hearts and express their true nature – even in the presence of strangers. The key characters in this film were exquisite examples of the diverse strength and beauty I saw unfolding in our own group at Lakeside:

Lily (Dakota Fanning): The vulnerable one with the open heart. Hurt yet full of hope that love could be hers. She is attracted to love like a bee to honey. She is an incredible intuitive and follows her heart.

August (Queen Latifa): The strong grounded one. Assuring, loving, and patient, she holds the space for healing. She is a deeply present force and a natural leader. Also a confident intuitive

May (Sophie Okonedo): The highly sensitive one.  She feels the pain of the world with great intensity.  Fortunately she also has a process for releasing her pain.  She is equally sensitive to beauty and gifted at expressing pure joy.

June (Alecia Keys):  The cautious and judgemental one.  She creates enormous boundaries around her to guard her from hurt.  She wants love but fears the pain.

Rosaleen (Jennifer Hudson):  She is the witness and loyal friend.  She accepts, listens, and quietly bonds to each of the other characters.  She adds the glue that solidifies any group she is part of.

Imagine my delight this morning when I saw this quote from President Obama’s address to the Notre Dame Graduating Class of 2009!

“When we open our hearts and our minds to those who may not think like we do or believe what we do – that’s when we discover at least the possibility of common ground.”

YES WE CAN!

Perfectionism – an Energy Drain!

Monday, May 4th, 2009

It’s just about  impossible to be perfect.  Trying to be perfect drains energy and stirs up negative emotions too.  It is one of the reasons creative people often find themselves blocked.   Accepting our faults, limits and imperfections is a way we can lighten up, attract more and get our energy back too.  Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a great way to help that process.

Yesterday I worked with an Artists Way study group using an EFT treatment sequence on perfection and was inspired to record it.   This is the actual recording as it came through me working with the group.  I do not pre-write these treatment sequences, but rather they flow through me.  Notice that it’s not perfect, but it gets at many of the aspects of perfection that drain us.

I am sharing it with you here, both as an audio file and as a written script.  Feel free to treat yourself with the recording and make sure to say the phrases out loud.    If you need an EFT tapping chart diagram,  just send me an email and I’ll get one out to you pronto.  Click on the link below for the audio.

EFT treatment audio for perfectionists

Set Up Statements (rub sore spot or tap karate chop point)Even though I will never be perfect, and I keep trying anyway…I deeply and completely accept myself, and I choose to love who I am right now.

Even though it’s impossible to be perfect and I can’t even come close to being perfect, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my imperfections, and I forgive myself for trying to be something other than what I am now.

Even though there are so many people who live life better than I do, and there are plenty of people who tell me what I did wrong, and my own mind criticizes constantly. I choose to let it go and love and accept myself right now anyway, knowing I am doing the best I can.

I choose to let go of unreasonable standards. I choose to move on seeing the beauty of what I have going on. Knowing that the “Master Plan” put me here, exactly as I am.

Negative Round:

I’m not good enough (top of head)

I make mistakes. I make more mistakes than I should (3rd eye)

I am full of fear. I avoid risks because I want to be perfect. I can’t mess anything up. (eyebrow)

I am ashamed when I am not perfect. I try so hard, and still I am not perfect. (side of eye)

I can’t be trusted. I will mess it up (under eye)

I am not good enough. I’ll never be good enough. I’ll always find something wrong There’s plenty of other people who will too. (under nose)

It’s not safe to do what’s in my heart. It will be torn apart. It’s easier to do nothing. Then I am closer to perfect. I could perfectly do nothing.(under lip)

I’ve got to let it go. I’ve got to be me. I am supposed to be exactly the way I am. With all these flaws, all these questions, all these imperfections.(collarbone)

I can learn something from my defects. I can teach others through my defects. I can accept these defects and be a role model for somebody. (underarm)

Or I can just be angry about it. I can be nasty, I can scream & yell, and then forgive myself and move on (under breast)

Positive Round:

I am good enough, exactly the way I am(top of head)

If I would just settle down I would get more great information. Relax and breathe and get my download (3rd eye)

When spirit works through me it’s pretty perfect. I want that to happen more (eyebrow)

I forgive myself completely. I forgive myself for being who I am. No apology necessary. I am here for a reason. (side of eye)

I can be trusted to create something good. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Flaws are interesting.(under eye)

People trust me and like me and respect me because I am a normal human being. I make mistakes just like they do. I am not perfect. I never was and neither are they. We are all alike. It’s nice to be human.(under nose)

It’s not about the show. It’s about being, feeling, inspiring myself for my best work. And deciding to put it out there whenever (under lip)

I decide when it is finished, and I’m not finished. It’s a work in progress. Always a work in progress. I am proud of my progress (collarbone)

Everything is a learning experience. Consciousness development is a human experience. (underarm)

I share well. I share who I am with the world. Exactly the way it is. Take it or leave it. This is my stuff, exactly the way I created it and it is good. I’ll accept your compliments later.(under breast)

Betsy B Muller, MBA, CEC 440-238-4731 www.theindigoconnection.com