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Hildegard Comes Out in the Garden

Monday, April 29th, 2013

Hildegard comes out at Riverside

This past Saturday I indulged in a day of retreat, and it was splendid. A 2.25 hour drive to eastern Michigan brought me to Riverside, the lovely retreat center owned by my friend Susie Clemmer and her husband. The hassle-free drive was clearly part of the retreat too. This was precious time alone with my own thoughts, enriched by the interesting topics on National Public Radio.

Once at Riverside, organizer and friend Claudia Taller helped us to share a relaxing day in the Garden. We shared our favorite flowers and stories about gardens while we ate a delicious breakfast. We were entertained with dance and poetry by Mary Bodnar and participated in gentle yoga with Claudia. Joan Barris helped us to relax under the spell of meditative doodling with fine black pens and the principles of Zentangle. One of the nicest gifts of the day was a free hour to simply go outside, explore the property and bask in the sunshine.

I remembered that the costume I had made for my new St. Hildegard retreat program was in the car. It occurred to me that maybe it was time to reveal her for the first time in this garden to a few compassionate friends. Wearing a nun habit to play Hildegard is the part that is most unnatural and uncomfortable for me. Ever since I heard the voice urging me to “finish the outfit” on Feb. 2, 2013, followed by creating the sold-out seminar I’ll debut on May 17, I have been avoiding the chance to come out publicly as “the nun”. I almost did it when I was scheduled to speak to the My Women’s Business Network on April 19, but then chickened out. Deep inside I knew it was time, especially if I intended to lead seminars in character, I must fully embracing the role.

Before changing into costume, I pulled Susie aside and asked if she would be willing to snap a few photos of me in the habit as I explored the garden. Thank goodness she was eager to oblige. We found a few nice settings and each step made it a little easier to accept the costume. The fact that it is in my favorite color really helps.

After lunch, one of our retreat activities was to create a poem about a special companion. I chose to write this poem in honor of St. Hildegard and share it below:

To St. Hildegard
We meet at a time of despair and crazy doubt
Searching for a teacher and a path
You welcome us home to communion
Mother, healer, leader, and nature’s sister
Time travelers in different bodies
Sharing the experience of God’s love
Transformed from timid to giggling
Comforted by grace and connection
Assured that joy is most appropriate as we play in the garden
Our hardest work made light by a team of angels.

Wise Words From Old Ladies

Monday, April 15th, 2013

Isn’t it interesting that little old ladies are stirring up my life lately. I spent most of Saturday with a large group of women as part of MetroHealth’s EveryWoman event. I challenged the audience to find a great older lady as a mentor and to develop a relationship with her to help your own aging process. I explained that my favorite feisty mentors are not related to me, but have a few things in common – they are widows, they stick to their values and they have put their fears aside. Widowhood is my worst-case scenario, and also a likely possibility when statistically women outlive their husbands by several years. Finding active and joyful widows like my mentors Judy and Margaret give me faith that my later years will be awesome no matter what. On Saturday it was heartwarming to be approached by so many happy widows who personally stopped at my book table for a hug and a kind word. More mentors for my team!

Many of my friends also know that I have been immersing myself in study of the life of the 12th Century German nun, Saint Hildegard of Bingen lately. I suppose this is another part of my obsession with older women. The more I read about Hildegard and the translation of her actual words, I feel as though she is a time traveler who visits me in spirit. We are so deeply connected it puzzles me how this could be so strong when we live in such radically different times. She has so much wisdom to share as I realize my journey with her has just begun. It is no accident that the Pope finally named Hildegard a Saint and Doctor of the Church on Oct. 8, 2012.

Yesterday I took a 4 mile run while listening to Hildegard’s music on my headphones. It was haunting, calming and so beautiful. As I returned to my desk, I found the following quote that gave me chills:

“But although I heard and saw these things, because of doubt and a low opinion (of myself) and because of the diverse sayings of men, I refused for a long time the call to write, not out of stubbornness but out of humility, until weighed down by the scourge of God, I fell onto a bed of sickness.”
(Scivias, Preface) – Hildegard of Bingen

Hildegard lived to be 81, although she is described in many historical accounts as having been a sickly person. She was considered sickly when she entered the Benedictine abbey at the age of 8 and had several near-death episodes throughout her long life. She admitted that her greatest times of illness came when she had mystical visions and messages from God, but failed to share that truth with others. When I read that quote, I thought to myself, “Me too!”

Do you realize how much energy it requires to hide your authentic self and your truth when you fear that the rest of the world might not agree? All that hiding can make you sick. It has happened to me and through Hildegard’s time travel and mentorship, I too have learned that it has to stop.

I have been hiding a few things out of fear. There are things I know that you also need to know, but I haven’t shared them because I didn’t think you were ready to hear them. Hildegard tells me it is time to speak up anyway.

The power of health, healing, success and joy comes from the energy of love in the form of connection. This connection is possible with humans, ALL living things and also with what you might consider non-living matter. You have the capacity to build your energy by simply taking a micro-moment to stop, notice and appreciate what’s around you. You need not use your eyes, although eye contact sure makes it pop! Take time today to appreciate the world around you and especially those wonderful old ladies in your life. We all need the wisdom of a feisty woman to help us live in joyful authenticity.

Adventures with Hildegard – The Story of the Nun Habit

Tuesday, March 19th, 2013

Hildegard of Bingen

If I told you that I spent the good part of the past week cooking with spelt, listening to chants in Latin, reading ancient translations and sewing a blue nun habit, would you be surprised?

I assure you that this is not a sudden infatuation. I am totally enchanted by Hildegard of Bingen, a Benedictine abbess who lived in 12th Century Germany. I have been in love with this little medieval nun for many years. A blog post about my connection to Hildegard written in 2008 titled “Grace, EFT and the Mystics” http://theindigoconnection.com/blog/?p=44 will give you some sense of how this all started.

Saint Hildegard of Bingen (1098-1179) was no ordinary nun. Undeniably one of the most astonishing female leaders who ever graced this earth, she was a mystic, naturalist, healer, visionary, poet, author, composer and artist. Through visions she received directly from God, she shared a wider vision of the world and helped humans to live in it more joyfully. Life in her abbey was FUN. Although she challenged the corruption of the church and was excommunicated during her lifetime, in October 2012 she was finally recognized as a Saint AND Doctor of the Church by Pope Benedict. Better late than never!

My passion for Hildegard re-ignited when I learned of Matthew Fox’s new book HILDEGARD OF BINGEN: A Saint for Our Times (Oct. 2012). Going on Amazon led me to more fascinating resources – 2 films available on DVD, a cookbook based on foods Hildegard recommended for physical and emotional health, music recordings, ornate mandalas and wisdom on a variety of topics. I watched the films, listened to the music, read the books and cooked a few of her recipes.

As I marinated in all things Hildegard, some bold thoughts began to take shape. What if I could embody her as a character and share her wisdom with modern audiences? Her messages of mystical spirituality, faith, sustainability, peace and environmental stewardship are relevant today. A voice from the depths of my soul whispered “Finish the outfit” and I shuddered. I’m not even Catholic and here I am, considering taking on the role of a nun. Would this offend someone? What would I be getting into?

In spite of my hesitation, I set out to JoAnn Fabrics on a frigid Saturday in March. Once inside, I easily found a pattern, as well as a beautiful blue fabric that matched my blue purse. I was armed to create my first nun habit. (Note: you can refer to the previous blog post for the purse story, which involved faith and a few coupons.)

Now home, my first challenge was dusting off the sewing machine, which had been hibernating for over a decade in my basement. Pressing the pedal resulted in a muffled grinding noise, but no movement. Being a woman of faith, I said a prayer then scurried off to find some lubricant. Sure enough, a few sprays of WD-40 in strategic crannies got that baby moving. Praise God!

Now it was time to cut and sew the habit. Expecting that would be a piece of cake, I discovered that my trusty pincushion was nowhere to be found. I suspect my daughter stole it off to college, but lacked proof at the moment. What would McGuiver do now? I boldly scotch-taped the pattern to my fabric and used a few safety pins to hold things together. Not pretty, but thanks to this being a garment where fit was hardly critical, we would get by.

Once seated at the machine, the act of sewing became pure joy. Not many people know that I sewed most of my clothes back in high school. I could spend hours without food or breaks once involved in a fabric creation. The sounds, sensations and the delicious smell of pattern, fabric and sewing machine oil had collided to delivered pure bliss. Thank you Hildegard for returning me to a wonderful hobby ignored far too long.

Each piece of the costume came into being: first the dress, then the contrasting white head piece with collar, and finally the veil. I finished pressing the final seam with deep satisfaction thinking, “It doesn’t matter if I ever wear this habit”. The simple experience of sewing had already been enough.

I see Hildegard looking back at me from the mirror and can only thank her for allowing me to see that we are kindred spirits, travelers from different times. Sewing the habit gave me the courage and full vision for sharing her message more widely. I quickly jotted down the ideas and sent an invitation for a day retreat called How to Thrive as a Modern Mystic – Energy Makeover® Lessons from Saint Hildegard of Bingen to my email list. Within just a few minutes, 8 women had enrolled and paid in full. Given that the event wasn’t even happening until May 17, I was impressed at how the message of Hildegard had resonated with my friends and colleagues. More importantly, I know today’s Hildegard will bring a new spark of fun to her mystical message. I bet Hildegard would have adored email and social media if it were available in her day.

Not a single soul (besides me) has seen Betsy as a blue nun. Not even my husband, although he knew I was working on it and texted a simple “oooh baby”, then suggestively requested I sew him a Pope outfit. We’ll see about that later. Perhaps that will be our plan for Halloween.

Could YOU benefit from more stamina, courage and intuition? Here’s what Hildegard has promised for the May 17 group:
• Sample Hildegard’s “Foods of Joy”- Find out how they are also slimming and take home recipes to fuel joy
to your life.
• Experience mystical visions through meditation facilitated by Hildegard’s music and mandalas.
• Play in the Garden – Explore healing herbs, get grounded and quiet your soul through a planting activity.
• Capture your insights through journaling.
• Go deeper into understanding your unique gifts as a healer, mystic and leader.
• Experiment with your intuition among supportive friends.
• Develop an action plan for living as a mystic in YOUR life, home and business

You can go to the link below for details to join us on May 17. Four spots remain, however if you miss this event, I am happy to deliver this program to your group at a later time. I suspect Hildegard will enjoy meeting many people in her new outfit. Good thing she has a matching purse and shoes!

Here’s the link: http://modernmystic.eventbrite.com/#

Connecting With Others – Guest blog post by Amy Frost

Sunday, December 23rd, 2012

Today I am sharing a blog from my friend Amy Frost. In the article below, she shares a very worthy exercise you might consider trying before a family gathering, party or business function.

Connecting with Others is Key to YOUR Success
by Amy Frost on 12.18.12

I recently attended a tele-program on implementing The Practice of Working For Good with Jeff Klein. Jeff skillfully lead each session, beginning and ending with experiences of connection with our self and then with others. Then, we observed how we moved through our day and what changes this new way of thinking had brought about.
This program has caused me to be much more aware of my affect and impact on others as I go through my day and in my work. I believe that effective relationships are essential to being successful. I asked Jeff to share a tool for connection with us.

Jeff Klein, Author: Author: It’s Just Good Business
Social psychology and even neurobiology indicate that “half (or more) of who we are is other people.” As social animals, we are informed, even formed, by other people. How we act and who we are changes based on who we are with and how we respond to others. Recognizing the effect others have on us and the effect we have on others is essential to elevating our functioning in business and at work.

Reflection on Connection
Sit or stand in a comfortable position. If you’d like, close your eyes. Be aware of your feet on the floor. Notice the quality of your breath. Take a few deep, purposeful breaths, and as you exhale allow your shoulders to drop.
Now envision yourself moving through your day and encountering people you work with.

First picture yourself connecting with someone who you enjoy being around. Notice the ease of connection that you have with that person. Next, visualize that you encounter someone who is difficult or challenging. Observe your physical reaction in each scenario. Do you tighten up around the antagonizing individual and relax around your friend?

After you’re done, take the time to reflect on your experience. Recognizing how your body reacts can indicate how you relate to others, and the effect they have on you. And note how your awareness can support you to shift your experience.

We practice our physical skills for sports. We practice our presentation skills for an important talk What if we made effective communicate skills a practice? I believe our homes, schools and workplaces would be more successful on all counts! Your assignment is to do this practice every morning for a week. Reflect on what you learn and fine tune your ability to communicate as you go. Ready, Set, Connect!

Fuchsia Anemone

Tuesday, November 6th, 2012

What is that?
Emerging from the greenery
A tiny head lifts to the sky
Opening to share a complex center
Darkness and light merging amidst vibrant petals
Revlon needs this hue!
Delicate, yet bold
Both mystery and miracle
Plucked to share the day
The marvel of your beauty is my blessing

The Art of Thrills and Expectations

Tuesday, October 23rd, 2012

Wal-Mart founder Sam Walton once said “High expectations are the key to everything.”

I am in complete agreement. High expectations are thoughts that are punctuated with images, feelings, dreams and ENERGY. Low expectations, on the other hand, are bland, apologetic and bracing for disappointment. Setting expectations is a choice. Have you checked your expectations today?

As an energy coach, a big part of my role working with clients is to help them create bigger and more exciting expectations for themselves. To be authentic in my work, I must constantly push my own expectations to higher places. I have come to love the challenge of that.

I don’t let disappointment invade my state of balance. I am not afraid of disappointment anymore. Fortunately I have energy self-care and EFT tapping to help me move on quickly after things don’t seem to go as planned. Now I believe in thrilling possibilities.

I remember entering a contest back in February 2012 which offered a spa vacation trip for two to Sedona AZ as a prize. As I entered that contest, I imagined myself taking that trip and enjoying it fully. I knew no matter what, that I would go to Sedona, even if I didn’t win that contest, and I allowed the thought of that to grow in my heart. Want to know something really cool? I won the contest and will be flying off with one of my girlfriends to enjoy that prize in a few days.

Where can you play with your expectations a bit in the next few days? One thrill you might enjoy is star-gazing. This week there is a higher likelihood of seeing a shooting star, especially if you are out on a clear night. I imagined myself witnessing the predicted meteor shower while outside on Saturday night, gazing at the clear sky and a beautiful array of sparkling stars. Did I see a single shooting star? NO! Determined not to give up, I showed up for star-gazing again early Monday morning, even though the odds of seeing a meteor were much lower. I kept looking straight up – and NOTHING but stillness. For a brief second, I shifted my gaze to the western horizon, and there it was – a brilliant bright meteor falling across the sky. Not where I had set my expectation, but showing up anyway.

What a thrill! Little things like that make my day and get jotted down on the gratitude list inside my daily journal. In spite of my expectations, the outcome was exceptional. The emotional boost resulted in a very productive day.

What might you expect for yourself today? I hope you set those expectations high.

What Can You Change in 30 Days?

Friday, September 14th, 2012

As you read the title of this blog, I wonder what jumped into your mind.

Is there anything you would change about your life if you knew you could succeed and do it quickly?

I have always been a no-nonsense coach who likes to help people transform quickly and comfortably using human energy self-care systems. Thirty days is what I have been asking people to consider as a reasonable time-frame for transforming 2-3 major life challenges or goals when they choose to work with me. That’s far less than most coaches ask for client engagement.

I’m actually starting to re-think the 30-day mark. Why? Because it has been just 30 days since I returned from Soul Detective Level 3 training with Barbara Stone PhD, and I have witnessed some pretty amazing things that have happened after a single intervention. While I am trying to make sense of it all, I am convinced that we are living at a time when healing can happen even faster than I have previously been taught to believe.

What’s different? I have now experienced and facilitated energy healing at the soul level. The boundaries of time shatter when you step into this realm. This is work at a sacred level where I let go and just ask questions with Divine guidance providing the plan. Everything requires permission and very gentle respect. I know I am not in charge, but simply facilitating some work for much higher beings. It is humbling and also kind of fun. I never know where it will go, but my faith increases with each encounter.

Here’s just a bit of what I have witnessed in the last 30 Days:

• A depressed and grief-stricken professional is smiling, fully engaged and hopeful again, after months in a deep funk. The healing happened quite immediately and without medication. You can see the sparkle in her eyes and it touches your soul. Others have noticed the significant change and commented to me about the transformation.

• A colleague who was feeling stagnant with her business and plagued with self-doubt and distractions has found clarity and direction. She felt odd for a day after our session, but then saw business lining up easily and doors are opening. She is has more focus too.

• An energy healer who is working a stressful corporate job is no longer smoking, breathing more easily and feels alive again. Her confidence level has jumped to new heights. She is ready to start a business.

• A businessman struggling with family stress is feeling more relaxed and hopeful than he can remember. A heavy issue that has been haunting him since high school has evaporated.

• A single woman who has been searching for a soul-mate for the past 3 years suddenly finds all sorts of very attractive and eligible men are striking up conversations with her. She feels very hopeful.

• At least 8 earthbound spirits (ghosts) have been re-united with loved ones on the other side.

• Client appointments, referrals and speaking engagements have been coming to my business mysteriously. I have made more trips to the bank to deposit checks than I usually do and the account balances are growing.

• New clients are perfect clients and a joy to work with. Some exciting relationships for long-term partnership are underway for my business as well.

• My personal health, comfort, energy level and sleep have been outstanding. The mental clarity has been amazing too. Clients are reporting similar health shifts.

• There was one negative – my business web site and email were mysteriously obliterated for almost 5 days. None of my experts can tell me why this happened, but fortunately everything has been restored. I suspect the dark forces were not very happy that I had some new tools.

Here’s my theory on what’s going on

I have changed. Removing dark force interverences that were operating within my system were limiting my reach as a healer. Those blocks are gone now. I can do more and my energy level is higher for both my physical life and client facilitation.

The rules have changed! There appears to be a new environment for healing in which a simple request can receive a huge dose of Grace as a response. Being as specific as possible in making the request helps direct the energy for the healing. An energy shift that results in an emotional, spiritual and physical healing is rapid and comfortable.

Dark Forces are Open for Negotiation: When considering how to state this properly, the emphasis is on the word negotiation. The new process I am using checks for dark forces, curses, hexes, 666 calibration, ET interference and what some people would call demonic entities. This is not something I ever thought I would want or need to work with. (I believed I was too practical for that stuff – LOL) Now that I am choosing to look for dark force interferences, I am learning that the power of Archangels and the Divine is comfortably situated to negotiate with and transform these forces into forces of good. I can offer some of the preliminary negotiating and the rest is handled by the unseen light.

There is surprisingly little struggle.
The negative just dissolves and joins the troops in the light. I believe this may be a relatively new phenomenon that has emerged and wonder if humankind has been granted a new kind of power from some benevolent force out there. If there is some tipping point that needs to be reached in 2012, maybe that’s part of it too.

What will happen in 30 more days? There’s a Divine power to handle the nasty stuff and I’ll stay present to the life that is unfolding around me. We are all here to be our highest selves, play the part and set good intentions. While we are at it, we can all make sure to ask that every healing is accompanied by a multiplier of good will for all who may suffer from a similar form of pain. That’s the kind of healing that will create heaven on earth.

I am healed……

Wednesday, August 15th, 2012

Sometimes getting away for a few days of learning can be more healing than you could imagine. I remember signing up for Dr. Barbara Stone’s Soul Detective Level 2 & 3 class months ago, not quite knowing why or what I would do with this training. I simply wanted to support Barbara in making this training successful.

Barbara is a dear friend, fellow ACEP member and extraordinary healer. Our history goes back (at least in this lifetime – ha ha) to her role as my ACEP certification consultant. Two of my past-life cases appear in her book, Invisible Roots. Barbara planned this training to take place at her exquisite property on Lake Buckhorn in the remote outskirts of Millersburg, Ohio. I had been there before and knew this setting would add a great deal to the experience. Her home and yard are a nature girl’s dream — fairies, crystals, flowers, lush plants, fruits, vegetables, wildlife, images of Christ and Divine mother, artwork, textiles and more! You enter this space and experience the embrace of angels and God. How lucky for me to be invited to stay 3 nights in this beautiful home so that I might also eat food from the garden and sleep in this calming wonderland.

There were 11 other participants attending the program, including 3 MDs (including a psychiatrist) who already believed that when healing happens at the soul level, the body and mind are automatically restored to greater health. We were all here to expand our toolboxes and to heal ourselves so that we could be of highest service to others. I was immediately impressed by the diversity and divinity of my fellow classmates. I’ll also add that we looked like a normal bunch of business professionals. It was no accident we were all in this together. Still not quite sure about the WHY for me, I trusted that it would unfold.

The healing began immediately. We reviewed protocols, then practiced muscle testing, assessed energetic interference patterns and customized tapping diagnostics in small groups. The end of day one had me questioning my abilities and feeling somewhat frustrated that we were using the more complicated TFT protocols rather than the intuitive EFT tapping that I practice on a daily basis with ease. I was glad when Saturday’s class was over.

That evening after dinner, Barbara invited Dr. Bob and me to explore the presence of energetic implants that might be impeding our ability to fully express ourselves as healers. I’ve done tons of work on myself, but that is one area I have never explored and a bit too “WOO WOO” for me. I wasn’t quite sure I wanted to go there. What I do know is that my body doesn’t lie and that I have full control when I work with Barbara. My open mind agreed to be curious about this. Self-testing said “yes”. Both Bob and I experienced rather profound healings that evening. Energetic implants were identified and released. Both of my implants were from dark forces, attacking my throat (YIKES – not good for a professional speaker) and the clarity of my Divine connection. Once identified, these interferences were easily neutralized by invoking help from my soul council and the angelic realm. After the session closed, I felt awake, clear-headed and extremely well. I slept like a rock and awakened the next morning ready to be fully present. In my journal I wrote, “I had no idea I could feel THIS WELL, when I previously felt so well.”

As the group gathered on Sunday, I was ready to jump in and found myself volunteering to be the demonstration subject for the first exercise on releasing curses and hexes (WHAT????). Yes, the left-brainer in me still makes a funny face when that subject comes up, but I swear, I am a believer. Muscle testing detected a curse I was carrying. Working the soul detective process released it in what I can only describe as a physically intense experience. That session left me with extreme thirst and a racing heart. Once the dust settled, the lighter and clearer me emerged. How awesome!

I won’t share all of the details of the final two days, but suffice it to say that I feel quite empowered to help others shine their lights more brilliantly. In the past I have turned away from working with dark forces, however I now find myself much more open to it. Light always wins, especially when that light has been given brilliant maintenance and optimization tools. I know how to do this now and have a stronger life force within me. My clients will benefit and as they heal, there will be a multiplier effect for the planet. Everything I do from this point on will include elements of this beautiful work Barbara Stone has brought to my life.

Yes – everything will be easier!

Note: In August and September 2012, I will be offering Soul Detective Sessions at deeply discounted rate so that I might reinforce practice of these techniques in my coaching sessions. For the time being, I will only be offering live soul detective office sessions to clients I have worked with in the past.

Summer 2012 – Amplifying the Experience of Gratitude

Sunday, July 15th, 2012

I woke up this morning and took a long breezy ride on my new Schwinn bike. This experience stirred up many gratitude memories – the bargain price, finding it in stock, right in my home town, how pretty it is (even though it is white and purple, not indigo), the discounts I nabbed on the accessories, a new option for transportation, and the pleasant exercise challenge cycling offers. Every time I pass my bike in the garage, I can’t help but smile and feel all happy inside.

It is very valuable to take stock of gratitude on a daily basis. According to Robert Emmons, author of Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happy, people who write down 5 things they are grateful for each day report:

o Feeling better about their lives overall
o More optimistic about the future
o Fewer health problems than the other participants.
o Improved sleep
o Protective effect against heart attacks

Guiding others in gratitude practice as part of coaching has raised my awareness about the blessings in life and also about the emotions and feelings that are woven into the gratitude experience. Clients often ask what I put on my list each day. I used to be surprised about this, but now realize that many people feel challenged as they begin. I remind them that little things are very important. Here are some of my favorites from the past month:

o Technology for conference call worked flawlessly
o Weight Watchers friends who inspire me with stories of their health recovery at today’s meeting
o The sparkling sun in the early morning
o My friend Patti looking so healthy and radiant after beating pancreatic cancer
o New butterfly twinkle lights for the patio (a bargain and they change colors in a cool rhythm)
o The audio book, After Life, that keeps me wanting more (+ got it free at Book Expo)
o A little boy’s hearty laugh during a show at Lakeside
o Coffee break with Sig and Gracie on the patio
o How kind my women’s group members are to one another
o Fresh flowers everywhere!
o Delicious new recipe with chick peas (healthy, pretty and filling!)

What you might have noticed is that many of these things aren’t about what you have or own, but about experiences and moments of delight. They are moments when you witness something that excites your values and what you hold dear.

Clients have admitted that they can write the list, yet don’t feel the powerful positive feeling they want to feel. As with any new and developing habit, patience and persistence are advised. You build these skills, experiences and feelings over time. Be both curious and open.

As a guideline, I would suggest the following to boost your awareness and positive feelings:

Notice what grabs your attention. You will find yourself distracted every day, often in a good way. Catch yourself in the present moment and make a mental note about what is there. What’s the best part? How are you experiencing the moment? This can happen while eating lunch, doing mundane household chores or during meetings.

Use all of your senses to uncover both the obvious and hidden gems. Gratitude moments exist in every corner of life. Challenge yourself to find the less obvious things. You might also ask others to help you notice the world around you through their experiences. Slow down a bit and notice details, sounds, tastes, scents, words, music and creations around you.

Share your gratitude awareness with others. A very pleasant conversation should follow. There is so much good in the world. You do your part by spreading it around. There are many who are stuck or simply not plugged into this habit yet. You can get them thinking and their comments may prod you to enjoy even greater appreciation for life. Perhaps they will even add YOU to their gratitude list for the day!

20 Things I Would Miss

Monday, July 2nd, 2012

Spirituality is knowing what you love about life right now. The latest issue of Cheryl Richardson’s weekly newsletter contained a story about Nora Ephron’s List. The beloved writer and director of many films, including “When Harry Met Sally”, Nora Ephron passed away last week. Nora’s most recent book gave us a precious glimpse into her life by listing 20 things she would miss when she was gone. Cheryl challenged all of us to make our own list and I am up to the challenge. Here goes:

1. George
2. My kids
3. Bold, fresh-brewed coffee
4. Running on a beach
5. Sunrises
6. Patio dining
7. Watching Sig sleep
8. Being greeted by Gracie
9. The Outer Banks
10. Lakeside
11. Reading
12. A full bodied red
13. Dark chocolate
14. Sunday mornings with the newspaper
15. NPR
16. Gatherings with the entire family AND all of the cousins
17. Purring
18. Twinkle lights
19. Fresh Flowers
20. Just-picked produce