Books That Changed Lives

September 24th, 2014

On September 10, 2014 our topic at the Indigo Connection’s women’s breakfast was “Books that Changed Your Life”. Each participant was asked to come ready to share a special book that made a difference to them. Some brought a book, others had it on a tablet, and a few brought books from memory. It proved to be a great meeting and gave us ideas for new books to seek out. Thanks to Claudia Taller for making the list below. Now that it’s getting darker earlier, you might want to snuggle up with one of these good books.

Simple Abundance, a Daybook of Comfort and Joy by Sarah Ban Breathnach – Jan

Each Little Bird that Sings by Deborah Wiles (juvenile) – Suzanne

Wild, From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed – Claudia

The DaVinci Code by Dan Brown – Pat

Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch – Annette

Little Soul in the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch (juvenile) – Mary

The Joy of Living by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche/Eric Swanson – Nancy (science and Buddhism)

Healing Mantras by Thomas Ashley-Farrand – Nancy

Feel Good Nutrignomics by Dr. Amy Jasco – Dr. Janet

Different Roads by Cathy Troccoli – Jean

5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman – Berne

Left Behind – Laura S.

Fart Proudly by Benjamin Franklin – Laura S.

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks – Anita (life changing, love threshold)

A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson – Jan (reflections on A Course in Miracles)

Living Beautiful by Pma Choudron by Kathy (be in the present moment)

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer – Janet Pearl

The Ancient Secrets of the Fountain of Youth by Peter Kelder – Betsy

Journey of Souls by Michael Newton – Betsy

It’s Time for Change….and Letting Go AGAIN!

September 15th, 2014

Change is in the air. That can be unsettling, but then again, when you think of life, you realize that it brings a series of changes. You can choose change, resist change, or let go and flow with it.

I chose a big change for myself last week. After test-driving and researching vehicles for several months I decided on a new Honda CRV and found a great deal. This also meant I would trade in my beloved 2006 RAV4. I realized a serious twinge of sadness. The RAV4 has been an outstanding vehicle for my business and personal needs in every way. Letting it go required a leap of faith. I trusted the promise of new equipment and updated technology to give me an even more joyful driving experience. Even then, spending a big chunk of my savings combined with the need to learn how to operate all of these high tech features made for a nervous first few days with the new car. Can you relate?

Even good, deliberate choices and events can be accompanied by regret, grief or even fear. Soon I will announce a major change to my business. It’s exciting and at the same time terrifying too. After working with a world-renowned branding consultant, I have chosen to adopt a new brand identity including a new logo, web site and name after 9+ years of working under The Indigo Connection brand. Taking on a new brand means saying good-bye to the old one and trusting the change will work. It also requires spending time and money to pull it all together. I remind myself that my business is different than it was 9 years ago, and so are the market and the clients I serve. The new brand is coming and I hope you will support it. Here’s a sneak peak in case you are curious.

As you take a look at your own life and surroundings, I bet there are many changes you’ve experienced over the past 10 years. Some were chosen, yet others were handed to you by fate. You have no choice but to accept them and move forward. Recognize that even though change can be stressful, resistance to change consumes a huge amount of energy. It is far better to find peace by accepting change. From there, you will find meaning, wisdom and gratitude that accompany life’s transitions.

Am I Stuck or Pausing for Redirection?

September 3rd, 2014

A dull ache has been living in my head since last Wednesday. As the calendar flipped to September, I’ve felt more scattered about priorities. There’s a long list I need to work on, including a major rebranding for my business, speaking proposals and a new web page, yet I’m not in the mood to address those things. Watching the news and checking social media only feeds my worry about illness, poverty and war in our world. On top of that, appointments have been canceling for odd reasons, leaving me with time to stew about what’s not going my way. I’ve entered the “stuck zone” and I suspect you might have been here before too.

What’s a positive, normally motivated person to do?

I’m quickly reminded that what I’m going through is what most of my clients have told me they struggle with, in a milder form. At least I’m sleeping straight through the night and there haven’t been any major upheavals in my life or support network. We all go through peaks and valleys. It’s my turn.

As I made lunch today, I listened to NPR’s Diane Rehm interview Gail Sheehy, the best selling author of Passages and a new memoir Daring. Both women reflected on their recent challenges involving the illness and death of a spouse. They also commented about how menopause can bring a major pause to creative output, followed by a flurry of new positive, activity. I like to think that’s what may be going on with me. The impatient women inside of me screams, “Can we just get on with it?” I want to believe there are better days ahead. Gail Sheehy marvels that she wrote 5 new books after menopause, even as she cared for her ailing husband. Right now the thought of that just ticks me off.

It occurs to me that I need the positive coach who lives inside of me to give the same kind of pep talk and energy intervention I’ve offered to weary clients time and again. I’d suggest they nurture themselves in a meaningful way, do something they love, and spend time tapping on their meridian balance points while accepting the present situation. We’d find a reframe that felt better while compassionately choosing to love ourselves as we are.

There’s no harm in trying it now. After a nice walk and a little time with my flowers, my higher self suggests this healing statement:

“Even though I feel tired and stuck today,
I choose to enjoy this time as a pause for re-direction.
I love and accept myself.”

Why Winery Tours?

August 22nd, 2014

When I decided to start my own business, my intention was to create a venture that was a natural extension of me. I wasn’t as familiar with the Law of Attraction when my company opened 9 years ago, but I knew what I liked. Building programs that included travel, natural settings, great food and opportunities to meet interesting people became a big part of the vision. A winery tour is a great way to celebrate the blessings each year with my clients and their friends

Ohio’s wineries are for the most part small businesses run by very passionate people. They work with the land, make delicious products and create experiences for people who visit, taste, purchase and tour. I am someone who drinks wine and enjoys the pairing of wine with food. Tasting wine and sharing that experience with friends is something that has created positive memories and bonds of good will throughout my life.

Yes, hosting a wine tour is a bit of a hassle because you take the financial risk each year and hope people will enroll. My friend Claudia Taller, who is an author and writer who will soon release her second book about Ohio’s Wineries, has been a fantastic partner in helping me identify cool wineries to visit with groups. She and I know how travel, food and wine bring people together. It helps to have an expert involved in the planning and on the trip to share interesting information with tour participants. It also helps me relax and enjoy the tour more too.

Here are my top 10 reasons to go on a winery tour:
1. It’s a full day of relaxation to look forward to
2. Talk, laugh and relax with interesting people
3. Leave the stress of driving and directions to a professional
4. Each winery is located in a beautiful, natural setting
5. The wines are delicious
6. It’s fun to learn about and compare wine varieties.
7. There’s always really good food provided with the wine
8. It works no matter what the weather, but usually it’s sunny in September during harvest time.
9. Meeting the winemakers and learning about the history builds appreciation for these businesses.
10. Come home relaxed, refreshed and grateful

Maybe you would like to join me on the next tour? We depart at noon on September 13, 2014 from Strongsville for 3 beautiful wineries (Sarah’s Vineyard, Red Horse and Wolf Creek) in the Akron area. If you’d like to learn more, go to http://tinyurl.com/n2trfzo

My Offer for Healing a World in Pain – and the Response!

August 5th, 2014

This summer, yet another book has made a difference in my life and possibly millions of others as well. Rebecca Rosen’s bestseller Awaken the Spirit Within was chosen as one of our reading selections for my summer women’s group. While many of the concepts in this book were not new to me, the chapter titled “Reclaim Your Power” called me to think and act in a new way. This chapter challenges each of us to BE OURSELVES, stand firmly in our truth and to claim God’s love, connecting with what we love and do easily. The events of this summer and a rush of private client cases urgently calling for my attention caused me to contemplate how I might claim that love while sharing my gifts as a healer for the greater good of all. A flash of insight came on Thursday July 31 and resulted in the following post to Facebook, that included a photo of a purple anemone from my garden.

Today I received guidance to provide a new healing service. Recognizing that many people need emotional, physical and spiritual help, and that I am unable to schedule appointments with each one personally, I will immediately start providing a daily healing session for any and all who ask for my assistance. Here’s how it works: The service is no charge. The healing will be offered as a distance-healing session. No scheduling is needed. You simply submit your request to me as a private message with the name of the one needing help and the reason or situation that needs relief. I will address these submissions on a first-come first serve basis and also extend the healing to all others on the planet who may share a similar pain. This is the most powerful way I know to be generous and to acknowledge the gift I have been given by the creator. Feel free to pass this post on to someone who may want to submit a request.

That post received 12 comments and 34 likes. I also immediately received 6 private messages with specific requests for healing. This response felt overall quite positive. I remember feeling like this was possible for me to do and that I was supported by spirit.

The first session took place early the next morning. It began with breath and meditation, followed by the creation of sacred space. The connection was immediate and clear. I received images, words and specific guidance for how to facilitate the session. I personally felt a wave of well-being as the session came to a close.

The sessions, which have continued daily, have offered me a wide range of insights and also allowed for healing and amplification of positive intentions. In all cases, other souls who resonated with the issues and desired healing came forward to be included in the session. As each session wraps up, I have jotted down insights, images and notes, which I pass along to the party who requested the healing intervention. Everything remains confidential and because the expectations for how and when all this happens are flexible, I don’t feel pressured or panicky about the order or content of each session. It is flowing in a surprisingly easy way. I am reminded that this sort of EASE or “being in the flow” is what happens when there is a convergence of life purpose with ability, desire and free will. Amazingly I was able to do a couple of sessions during the weekend while up at the lake while hosting my family.

These sessions will continue indefinitely and requests will be logged in the order received. If you would like to add a healing request to this list, please feel welcome to do so. The request can be for you, a loved one or a situation that needs a positive shift. Feel free to share this opportunity and this blog article with others. I ask for nothing in return. If you desire my help more directly and urgently, private scheduled sessions are available by appointment. Either way, I’m here in service to you.

“Nice” Women Filled with Rage?

July 22nd, 2014


Last night I hosted another weekly gathering made up of female business owners and professional women from all walks of life. Can you believe that when we tested for a common issue we all needed to heal, what came up was excessive RAGE directed against our selves? It’s understandable that women might be a little angry because our culture doesn’t encourage these feelings to be expressed in public. Who would have imagined that this circle of sweet smiling women had been silently suffering from RAGE? Could clearing rage help you AND help the world?

Here’s how it all came down:

Each week I set the intention of providing a program both interesting and experiential for this group. The tragic events that have occurred in the past week, both locally and internationally had given me pause. It has been such a time of death, destruction and violence. I seriously wondered how to create an evening for these ladies that would help them unwind and also spread a wave of healing to the world we are all part of?

I was guided to begin the night with a series of self-care exercises from Donna Eden’s book Energy Medicine for Women, directed specifically to balancing adrenal glands and promoting spleen health. This made perfect sense – begin by relieving the stress in the physical body, then strengthen the immune system.

Next, I directed them to journal in depth on the following questions, while also creating a few words of summary about each item on an index card.

1. What are you noticing NOW about your physical state? How have you experienced the past week in terms of physical health, sleep, mental clarity, stamina, aches/pains, digestion and breathing with ease?

2. How has media coverage of world and local events affected you?

3. Which relationships have brought the greatest joy and the greatest pain during the past week?

4. What is something you believe you need to heal that the world also needs healing for?

I collected the cards, then revealed that we would using the Soul Detective protocols to identify and clear a priority issue we shared and could heal as a group. This included giving each participant a copy of the soul detective session tracking sheet I use with for private client sessions (something I have never dared share before). I explained that this work is some of the deepest and most mysterious that I do, admitting that I find myself being skeptical at times. It’s invisible stuff. The mystery is mostly in the belief that God and a team of archangels guide and accomplish the work. My role as facilitator is to uncover what the disturbances are about and to request healing interventions in a specific and meaningful way. It also includes multiplying the healing to all parties who may resonate with the challenge or disturbance.

I asked for the group’s permission to conduct the exercise and requested a physically healthy volunteer to act as a surrogate for muscle testing the group field. I could have intuitively done this, however I feel it’s best to have a demonstration that openly tests the energy. I set up sacred space and called in Divine support to purify and protect our work. We verified that we had permission for a group healing and got started. What soon emerged was an emotional disturbance that could best be described as “rage against self”. Testing also revealed that tapping meridian points would be an effective way to clear this collective disturbance. I asked participants to shout out specific ways they could be silently raging inside so that these words could be worked into our healing statements.

We completed several rounds of meridian tapping, including the following statements regarding feelings of rage about:

Images media has put into our awareness
Impossible standards we can’t hope to live up to
Knowing our faults too well
Magnifying mirrors
Painfully hiding our true selves so we are more likeable
Feeling un-loveable
Being part of a species that is violent
Not knowing enough to be valuable
Things we didn’t get to do
Things we can’t change
Feeling alone

There were several comical statements that came through too. It’s hard to remember all, but the outcome was a circle of relaxed, calm women. The treatment had shifted something in all of us.

Because we were running late, I needed to end our circle rather quickly. Each woman was asked to take home one of the note cards from the earlier exercise and to send healing prayers to the woman who may have anonymously written it.

After the group departed, I finished the session by asking the archangels to multiplying our healing work to include the group members who had missed the meeting and also to any soul who was feeling rage. I swear that I felt a wave of calm wash over me as I engaged this thought and wondered, “Could this simple request to God and the angels really make a difference? ” I’m choosing to believe it did. A little less rage in this world makes room for people to thrive and create brilliantly for the greater good of all.

If you are feeling more peaceful today, maybe it is because we activated a loving prayer to calm enraged people. It is only by taking our own small actions that we can and will make a better world for all.

Namaste

Surprising Life Lessons from 14 Days in Greece (part 2)

July 12th, 2014

My husband George and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary by taking a 14-day Rick Steves tour of Greece. This was our first trip to Greece and we were both excited and a bit nervous about being away from our home and work for such a long time. Travel has a way of teaching you who you are, what you value and also new things about the world you are part of.

Here is the second installment of the remaining 7 important life lessons that became clear during this journey.

8. Indulge without apology: When on vacation, there are many tempting new opportunities to indulge in sweets, drinks and extra loafing around. If you are a health and fitness minded person, this may create some inner conflict. Relax! These moments are exactly the reason that someone came up with the 80/20 rule. Long-term health is not about diet perfection. As long as you have healthy habits to return to after vacation, you might as well indulge and enjoy. Your diet and rigorous exercise protocols will be there when you get home. It was interesting to me that in spite of my indulgences in afternoon cappuccinos, beer with meals and plenty of gelato and baklava, I was able to maintain my weight. I also found it puzzling that I never craved chocolate like I do at home while on vacation. I actually carried an emergency dark chocolate bar in my backpack for 2 full weeks and never cracked it open! My body somehow found a natural way to stay in balance without it. It sure was fun breaking the rules for a few days and also easy to get back on track too.

9. Tread carefully and alert others to danger: The ancient Greek sites seem to have one thing in common – they are all on top of mountains of rock. Thanks to thousands of years and millions of little feet treading on those steep stairs and uneven rocks, today’s visitor will find the paths are often slick and especially hazardous to someone who isn’t paying attention or wearing sturdy shoes. Our guides were good at reminding us to be careful. It is so easy to get distracted by an amazing view or when trying to take a photo that you can risk your safety. We were lucky to be traveling with a group of really kind people who constantly helped each other, pointing out hazards so that they could be navigated with greater care. May it be a lesson for life in general – pay attention and help others do it too.

10. Connect with stories: When you go to a place filled people, artifacts, archeological sites and ruins, stories are what make it all come alive. Our guides told stories to help us see the humor and practicality of ancient life, including myths, as well as stories of war, tragedy and loss. Some of the best tales we heard came from a modern perspective through our delightful and handsome bus driver George. We thoroughly enjoyed learning about modern Greece through stories he shared with us at dinner about serving in them military, how he met his wife, his recent wedding celebration, love of basketball and what it’s like working an olive farming operation. Stories are far more than information – they create beautiful bonds of connection.

11. Trust and say “YES”: Take a chance to have a little adventure. If you get an invitation for something new, unfamiliar or unexpected, AND you trust the person who reaches out, go ahead and say YES. During one of our stops in Greece, it turned out that there were not enough rooms at our assigned hotel. As a consequence, our guide asked for volunteers to go to another hotel. She explained it would require a climb up a steep hillside taking us further away from town. George and I quickly stepped up, without knowing where we would be going. In this case, the invitation turned out to be a 4 star hotel rated #1 on Trip Advisor. We had a prime room, beautiful gardens, friendly innkeepers and an outstanding view from our mountain perch. Saying yes got us something better than we ever imagined.

12. Dance! When you go to Greece, an invitation to dance will be a possibility. Our guide assured us that a night of music and dancing was planned as part of our tour itinerary. I intended to jump at the chance to dance, but figured this would not be something my husband would ever care to do. Imagine my surprise when George was selected to participate in one of the most animated parts of the show. Not only did he dance, he embellished, jumped, did a pushup to pick up a shot of wine from the floor and fully entertained us. After 30 years of marriage I never imagined that! Everyone in our group danced and laughed, sharing many memories that we no only witnessed, but fully experienced. Physical memories are unforgettable.

13. Honor conservation: European hotels have many measures in place to save energy, water and other resources. We were encouraged to reuse towels and every hotel we stayed at had a little slot inside the room where you placed your key to turn the power on in the room. This also meant that when you left your room and took the key, the AC, power and lights immediately shut off. While this was occasionally annoying when we wanted to charge our electronic devices, it was a smart way to save energy. Why don’t we do this in hotels in the USA?

14. Appreciate the comforts of home: One of the best parts about vacation is coming home to a soft bed, familiar foods and the creature comforts that are so easy to take for granted. Did you know that flushing toilet paper is forbidden in Greece? You’d think with all of the advanced developments that began in ancient Greece they would have solved the TP challenge by now. Alas, they are still working on it. In the meantime, appreciate the good stuff around you today and saluting the Greeks each time you enjoy the comfort of TP flushing!

No matter where you go, travel is an opportunity for relaxation, connection, growth, awareness and experiencing life in new ways. Planning a trip is half the fun too. I’m already planning my next adventure – a cruise to the Caribbean in late February 2015. Maybe you’d like to join us. We have a great group rate and some special bonuses, including free beverages if you sign up by July 30. Click on the link below to get all the details.

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Surprising Lessons from 14 Days in Greece (Part 1)

July 9th, 2014

My husband George and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary by taking a 14-day Rick Steves tour of Greece. This was our first trip to Greece and we were both excited and a bit nervous about being away from our home and work for such a long time. Travel has a way of teaching you about who you are, what you value and also new things about the world you are part of. These are great coaching lessons for anybody to apply. Whether you plan a trip or just want a better life at home, they are worth sharing.

Here are the first 7 of 14 surprising lessons that became clear during this journey.

1. Use THEIR words: Language is an important connector. My husband is a smart guy who immediately asked our Athens cab driver to share a few key phrases to convey “hello”, “thank you” and “you’re welcome”. George began using these phrases immediately and you could witness the change in the room and the emergence of smiles when he did. Even though most Greeks typically knew English too, his effort made a great impression. I soon followed suit. Wherever you are, using words most familiar to the person you are with creates immediate connection. Do it with intention and see what happens.

2. Thrive with less: Our tour required that we bring ONLY one carry-on bag and one small daypack. While this initially sounded impossible, with careful choice of clothing (white, blue and black) and 2 pairs of flat shoes, it worked beautifully. No need to check luggage, a money belt instead of a purse, and giving up high heels for two weeks was liberating. We moved swiftly from place to place, took the stairs with our bags and never had to worry about lost or stolen stuff. Life is about the memories, not the stuff. If you’ve got too much stuff, consider experimenting with less.

3. Try new things: A benefit of this kind of tour is that the tour provides an average of 2 of your three meals each day. The guide typically orders the food and choses local specialties. It’s often something you wouldn’t order if you were on your own, yet it arrives and you try it. Sometimes you love it and sometimes it’s just okay, but by the end of the trip, you have had some amazing meals that reflected the people, the land and their culture. The experience is priceless and memorable, even if you didn’t like what you tried.

4. Watch the world go by: Europe is a marvelous place for people watching and street cafes are the best grandstands on the planet. We had plenty of free time in our journey and chose to use it at cafes where we indulged in the local beers or a cappuccino fredo (iced coffee) with a complimentary dish of a crunchy snack. It was fun to try to guess where people were from before they spoke a word and to watch families, couples and groups interacting. You can learn a great deal about culture through observation. Add a cool drink and it becomes effortless.

5. Trust an expert guide: As in life, finding an expert to lead the way saves time and money while adding incredible value. Our tour provided us with Anastasia, a certified professional and native Greek guide with 20 years experience leading tours as our constant for the 14 days. She was funny, organized and well prepared for each site and knew how to tell stories that kept our attention. Her laughter was contagious. In addition, 4 other local guides were brought in as we visited each archaeological site or museum to help give focused expertise. They were exceptional at making history come alive and conveying their passion. If you travel to Europe on your own, seriously consider hiring a guide. The Rick Steves tour books (available at most libraries) provide names you can trust too.

6. Ask! Speaking up, asking questions and simply expressing your curiousity will make any experience in life a little easier. When it comes to travel in a new place, it is even more essential. It was easy to get lost in a country where the alphabet is different and street signs become impossible to read. Don’t delay when the answer may be right under your nose. Never underestimate the power of asking.

7. Find the humor: In all honesty, travel opens up many possibilities for physical discomfort ranging from hard beds, strange bathrooms, digestive distress and jet lag. If you can find a way to laugh about it as you commiserate with your new friends, the pain is neutralized and connections are made. At one hotel, remembering a moveable shower nozzle, a non-existant shower curtain and explosive water pressure, my experience could only be described as “wrestling snakes.” Now, as I think about how that shower experience completely destroyed that bathroom, I can’t help but crack up.

Stay tuned for the next 7 lessons coming soon. You can find some of my photos from the trip at https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10152493295251544.832366543&type=3

Two Stories from a Notably Absurd Day

June 20th, 2014


Today I found myself laughing about two scenes that happened yesterday. I am realizing that as bad as it seemed at the time, things could have been worse and there are lessons to be gained. I’ve decided that it is worth writing about so I might share if for the humor of it all. It’s always funnier when it didn’t happen to you.

Scene 1: Air Conditioner Installation
My sister is always hot and needs fans and air conditioning for happiness. She’d just had a sweltering 93-degree day at the Lakeside cottage when I arrived there on Wednesday evening for a quick overnight visit. She had purchased a window air conditioner for the living room, but because she isn’t handy at installing things was going to wait and suffer until her husband could install it on his next visit. “How hard could it be?” I said with confidence. Inspecting the unit, I soon realized that it did not come with a support bracket. Additionally, the side panels only covered a 35-inch width and this was a 40-inch window. Being the optimist that I am, I offered to do the installation because I knew she’d been really down and the cool air could lift her spirits.

After reading through all of the installation materials, which never mentioned anything about a windowsill bracket, I figured that maybe this installation could skip that step. Hoisting the heavy unit up on the sill, I suddenly realized this was not going to work. Unfortunately, just as this realization was made, my hand slipped and I lost hold of the AC unit. The whole thing tumbled out the window and crashed with a loud thud on the concrete below. The words that bellowed out of my mouth are not in compliance with my social media policy so you can simply guess what they were.

Accepting this loss, the next thought that came to my awareness was “Did anyone else witness my stupidity?” I listened for snickering from the house next door and scanned the perimeter. Phew! Even my sister missed the show, having gone into the other room for something.

Happy ending: The AC unit still worked when brought into the house and tested. Hurray! After an hour driving around town a suitable bracket for installation was found at Wal-Mart. The unit is now in it’s rightful place and working like a charm.

The lessons:
1. Support can make all the difference in the world.
2. Sometimes things end up okay even when you screw it up royally.
3. If nobody sees you do something stupid, it feels a whole lot better.
4. Installing a room air conditioner for the first time is a two-person job, even if you are in good shape.
5. Duct tape can correct the minor imperfections of any installation challenge

Scene 2: Explosive Projectiles in the Back Seat?
After a busy day of painting, yard work, shopping and a challenging window AC installation at Lakeside, it was time to hit the road for home. I packed the car and got Gracie my golden retriever situated in the back seat for our 80-minute drive. Everything was quite normal until about 35 minutes into the trip when I heard a funny noise in the back seat. Gracie was panting wildly and very restless. Usually when I command her to lay down, she does as told, but not today. Suddenly I smelled something really foul. Hoping that my dog had a little gas, I soon realized the worst – Gracie’s restless misfortune was explosive projectile diarrhea. Now what? You don’t just pull over on the highway. Opening windows wasn’t that practical either. I had nothing on me to clean up the mess which continued to flow in spurts for the remaining 45-minutes of our journey. The stench and the poor animal’s state of distress almost killed me, but what does one do?

Once at home priorities got sorted quickly. First, hose down the dog. Next, remove the foul remnants from the seats, seatbelts and carpet, followed by major cleaning, carpet shampooing and laundering of all the disgusting rags, towels and such. The odor and the mess were probably worse than all the diapers I ever changed as a mom. As I drove to a meeting the next morning, my car still smelled like cr@p, so detailing continued with new odor absorbing cleaning products. It’s getting there, but I won’t be taking passengers for a while! Gracie is doing fine now and I have no idea what this explosive episode was about.

The Lessons:
1. Don’t EVER put your bag with your laptop, calendar and important files in the back seat when you travel with a dog
2. Bring beach towels along when taking rides with your dog in the back seat and be grateful when the beach towel falls on top of you bag with the laptop in it.
3. Be grateful when something like this is over and you can finally take a shower.
4. Cleaning up a filthy dog and car will earn you about the same number of Weight Watcher’s activity points as a high impact Jazzercise class (which I missed because of this fiasco)

Have a nice day and may it be better than mine was yesterday.

For Those Who Need Help Letting Go After Loss

June 15th, 2014


Father’s Day and the many social media posts from friends missing their Dads certainly brings a touching reminder about the pain we carry when we lose someone special. Today it is fitting to feature and recommend a new book written by a friend and colleague, Sherry O’Brian, LCSW, DCEP. Sherry is a licensed therapist, a fellow member of the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology and a former presenter at The Indigo Connection’s retreat at Lakeside. The book is Peaks and Valleys – Integrative Approaches for Recovering from Loss Ozark Mountain Publishing 2014 and now available for purchase online at https://ozarkmt.com/index.php/authors/sherry-o-brian/peaks-and-valleys-integrative-approaches-for-recovering-from-loss.html

Something each and every one of us can be assured of in life is loss. Sherry O’Brian is a most capable guide for helping others face the inevitable. Peaks and Valleys is a guide for therapists who want to integrate energy psychology concepts into care for the grieving, as well as a suitable resource for any person in the midst of processing a devastating loss. Ms. O’Brian begins the book by sharing two heartbreaking stories that have touched her deeply and personally. So much of the research for this book obviously came through the quest to heal her pain.

Throughout the book readers are reminded that grief touches lives in many ways beyond the death of a loved one. Common situations such as job loss, divorce, physical injuries or illness, aging, the death of a pet and retirement are among those that are addressed.

The majority of the book is dedicated to the integration of effective methods and therapeutic tools to empower the grieving to accept and eventually find wisdom for life through loss. Sherry O’Brian’s toolkit includes energy psychology, hypnotherapy, Energy Medicine and a variety of other mind-body techniques she has discovered on this journey. An entire chapter addresses ideas for creating healing rituals to honor loss. Peaks and Valleys also includes step-by-step tapping scripts for common situations and a lovely meditation for mending a broken heart. Throughout the book, readers will delight in beautiful quotes, as well as helpful exercises to allow deeper insight into the power of letting go and allowing joy to return.

Whether you work with grieving people, are processing your own pain, or care about someone who has suffered a loss, this book will serve you well. Having an extra copy on hand to give away may be the perfect way to respond to with loving kindness.